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*fattymcfatfatz
writes:Hello, I have a real serious problem. Myself and my boyfriend (16y/o) have been together off and on since like 3rd grade I am now alot older and very much more mature I am 15 years old and I have been thinking about having sex with him (he has not been presuring me at all!). I am a virgin so I know its going to hurt alot I heard. But I really just wanna know should I really have sex with him I mean I love him with all my heart and I know that he love me to..I just dont wanna get hurt. I also have insecurities with my body, I am a little bit on the heavier side and I just am very insecure about that. Im worried that he might go back and talk about me behind my back. I just really dont wanna get hurt. Thats all so should I do it??
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reader, 10-05-08 +, writes (13 August 2009):
 Ok he loves you.So you really shouldt be worried stuff he would say.Sometimes sex doesnt hurt depends all bodies are diffent.Get on birth control if u dnt wanna use a condom. If you wanna get really sexy bout it get a lube it helps you to get wetter and horny. Just feel confident or juss keep ur shirt on and juss take ur underwear off and make him go on top. It could kinda hurt in the beginig but just tel him to go slow and you tell him to g faster as the pain goes away. Sinse your going ot be wet it really shouldnt hurt. If it gets to the point that hurts alot then stop. Or change position.
Hoped i helped.
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reader, 10-05-08 +, writes (13 August 2009):
Ok he loves you.So you really shouldt be worried stuff he would say.Sometimes sex doesnt hurt depends all bodies are diffent.Get on birth control if u dnt wanna use a condom. If you wanna get really sexy bout it get a lube it helps you to get wetter and horny. Just feel confident or juss keep ur shirt on and juss take ur underwear off and make him go on top. It could kinda hurt in the beginig but just tel him to go slow and you tell him to g faster as the pain goes away. Sinse your going ot be wet it really shouldnt hurt. If it gets to the point that hurts alot then stop. Or change position.
Hoped i helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): you dont 'know' that it will hurt.you havent had sex yet.
it may or may not hurt.like me you may feel no pain just pleasure.so wherever you heard it will hurt,it is not true.that is what they felt.what you will feel will always be different,if it is good or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): when you next talk about having sex ect. tell your boyfriend you really want to wait for two or three years. if he gets mad and all like wtf and all i say its not worth it and he may love you but he doents truly respect you. make sure you tell him face to face so you can see his initial reaction. if he truly TRULY seems fine with it and your 150% ready, i say go for it. but don't tell him what your planning and if he says he will wait, make him think that way for a week or something. and if he asks why you changed your mind say cause i know youll always be here for me. and remember a condom never ever forget. cause nothing is worse than sitting out your senior year because you have a baby on the way. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): Do NOT do this - he could easily be tried for rape (you're likely a minor in most states) and get convicted of a sex crime that could haunt him for the rest of his life. There's a really scary article on US sex crimes in this months "The Economist" (not a mag I expect a 15 year old to read). There's a story of a 16 year old girl who decided to give her 15 yr old BF a BJ in class (during a film). She was arrested, plead guilty (at the recommendation of a public defender) and now has a FELONY sex crime (sex with a minor) on her record. She only did 30 days in jail, but now can't get a job, or housing. Her life is ruined... Wait till you're both legal! Your on dangerous ground here!
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