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30-35,
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writes:I have known a boy since the first day of high school and he is now pretty much my best friend. For a long time during high school I had a huge crush on him but never really did anything about it. We weren't so close back then but now we are - I see him almost every day and I think I'm in love with him, but we've always been 'just mates'. We never really did anything up until a few weeks ago when we were drunkenly playing around on my friends couch one night and I made the excuse that I was going away for awhile to avoid going the 'whole way'. Now I've come back and we haven't really talked about it. I've heard him say that he doesn't want to be single anymore and that he wants a girlfriend, which to me can mean either two things; he wants me or he wants someone other than me. What should I do? He is the most wonderful person in my life and I am scared of loosing him.
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reader, abbeymom  +, writes (27 August 2008):
 Boy this is hard. I'm in my 30's and can remember what it was like to be younger, care for someone and fearful of it not working out.
Think... if I knew then what I know now...
Just tell him how you feel and be prepared for any answer you get. Honesty is important. No matter what the age. It will hurt yes if he doesn't feel the same but you will feel better though it won't seem like it, in the long run.
You have to chose. Keep him as a close friend you want in your life. Or take that chance that he may not feel the same and your friendship could be dented forever.
I know it sucks. I feel for you. I do. But that is my only advice. We never know what life holds. You also can't and shouldn't live your life always wondering "What if I had just taken that chance..." Trust me on this. No matter what the outcome you are being true to yourself and your feelings.
That is important.
~ Abbeymom
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