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writes:hello guys,I am 19 years old, my boyfriend is 21. we were in a long distance relationship for two months; we chat online. we met once for a very short time ( cause we both didn't have enough time to stay for long..) anyways, it was weird, we just talked like friends do. I mean we didn't seem like a couple at all.. since then, it seems that he changed. He also thinks now that we were cold. it's actually true. i guess it's because it was our first meeting ever; besides its also both our first time in a relationship.. I'm moving to another country in a month; which makes it even difficult for me to make my mind. Do you guys advise me to end our relationship now? I still like him though, it just feels weird between us now. we dont talk so much, and he's not trying anymore.. i dont want to lose him for nothing. He's a great person. do i ask him to end our couple thing and be just friends, since i am moving? help me guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey guys,
thank you so much for your answers.
We actually talked about it all. we are now nothing but friends. we still talk online from time to time. But i'm over him as a bf. It's great not loosing someone only cause of distance.
thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2017): My advice is to end the relationship. If things have gone cold, so be it.
You're young and you should be open to new adventures, meeting new people, and learning something about independence. You're too young to weigh yourself down with a questionable LDR. You're moving to a new country, and making a fresh start. Just consider this stall in communication a window of opportunity. Your way out without any drama or a broken-heart. If he realizes you're leaving, he's just not hitching his heart; only to watch you get even farther away.
If it's gone cold, I don't think he's interested in being friends, or in an LDR. Chances are, he is already seeing someone on the other end. You're not obligated to be his friend; and it shouldn't be done because you feel guilty, or feel sorry for him. He's a big-boy, he'll get-over it. So will you. Quickly, I would suspect. You're hardly together anyhow.
You can wish him well. Look forward to a new chapter in your life, and a great adventure.
Spread your little wings and fly!
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reader, Riot2017  +, writes (31 July 2017):
LDR relationships are hard as hell. I've been in a relationship, for 10 years, with long LDR patches, and it has been very hard as hell. It needs double or triple the work a normal relationship haves, and it's very depleting emotionally. I've endured that long because I really love my partner and the feeling is mutual, and we would never cheat or anything, so in my case it's worthy.
You are very young and you can easily find a new partner.
I suggest you to call quits. If you can fly to see your BF every 2 to 3 months, it sounds doable, but if not, it's going to be hard, and one of you will end up cheating or calling quits eventually.
Best luck!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 July 2017):
 You can TRY and see if he wants to kick it down a notch to friendship or being penpals.
If he agrees then stick to that. BE friends and NO more. Keep it PLATONIC.
If he doesn't, then maybe you need to accept that whatever you two had has run its course. If that is the situation you two might agree to cut the contact.
Sometimes things work out and sometimes they don't.
Starting an LDR online is not always realistic. Because you are not really part of each other's lives and there is no REAL plan for that to happen either and... you don't KNOW each other THAT well - that was pretty evident when you did meet in person. There was just not big chemistry or connection. Doesn't mean you can't be friends. IF that is what you BOTH want.
It's OK. Talk to him. Take it from there. It's much better than ignoring how you feel and how he might feel too.
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