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writes:Hey i wrote up two days ago and thanks to "Another_Kapiti" who wrote back to me but just to give you an update. It was a very long question about this guy that i needed to tell him i really loved him but didnt wanna risk our friendship because he alwyas seemed to like me but said he didnt to some friends. the way he acted just said he did. No i havent decided what to do for the best yet but i did meet up with him the other night for a drink and to my suprise it was just me and him, although he did ask someone else to come but they couldnt.I was quite shocked as he was there waiting for me, i thought i wont be early because im always waiting 5mins for him but he was there and as i walked over to him he said 'whats up' and 'u alright' and stuff and he seemed pretty happy to see me. I was worried he didnt wanna be there but that made me feel better.Anyway the night could have gone better we were both very shy with each other, walking up we werent too bad and he was just normal, we sat down and he asked me how things were going but after that we just didnt know what to say. And i cant really describe it but something didnt seem right, he didnt seem very relaxed and tbh we didnt talk much unles a subject got brought up then for that moment he seemed normal but after that or when i spoke he seemed a bit weird or just said yeah or summat. We left after two hours. Tbh im not that worried that he didnt wanna be there because he seemed up for it its just we didnt know what to talk about really and with anyone else you wouldnt shut him up, i thought he was shy and it made me shy. Towards the end i thought he was getting bored anyway because we werent really talking but even when we did talk he sat there playing with his bottle(empty one of what he had to drink) peeling the label off. Anwyay he said he wanted to get to the gym so we went and we spoke a bit on the way down and we were talking about this girl that we knew and he said "i can see why shes depressed but things happen in life and you've eventually just otta get over it" Anyway when we parted we hugged as usual(he alwyas pulls away first) and he just let go of me and said "take care wont ya.."Now that comments put me back on telling him because as i mention in my last post i cant get over him, ive tried and this is why im in this mess, i cant seem to live wihtout him, he is me. I dont wanna loose our friendship but i cant go on like this and the only thing that would cure it would be i we were toegther so i feel i have to tell im if ive got any hope of trying to be friends and just love him as a friend.Thing is i got home that night and we dont talk much on the internet but when we do i always start it, we didnt talk anyway but he had a status on his facebook. "i wanna go deeper but i dont know how to swim!" i searched the lyrics of it and its actually a love song lol. And i thought i bet its about that girl hes met but i thought it cant be, hes only met her once, all he said to this person was that hes just gotta get to know her, hes confident with all girls that give him attention and she does, hes not seen her since so i cant see in anyway how thats about her. And now ive got a stupid idea in my head that from how we were when we met up he could mean me. But i know it possibly doesnt but ive got to tell him i just dont know hwo to tell him without wrecking our friendship because theres no way i'll do it face to face.
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wow, sounds like your kinda obsessed with this guy. Either way if you cant have him as a lover, it would be pretty dam hard loving him as a friend. Imagine how youd feel once he gets a partner that wasnt you? As for Facebook stats, dont read to much into them! If you are that much into him, why dont you just tell him? what do you have to lose? at the moment its driving you insane not knowing, so what is knowing gonna do to you? Go for it, just because he knows your feelings doesnt necessarily mean he'll push you away.
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