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writes:Me and this lady had been doing a long distance relationship for about 8 months. I would go visit her and she would come visit me. We never had the title boyfriend and girlfriend. i had come home in august and we talked about it and said that if we were still doing well in december we would call it official. we talked everyday from that time and she visited me in november. everything was good but when i came home in late december and we brought it up she said the long distance wasnt working for her and she felt she had changed and wanted to temporarily take a step back and just be friends. she also said she doesnt regret anything about our relationship and she still has strong feelings for me. i told her i couldnt be friends and havent talked to her since (its been about 4 days). what does all this stuff that shes saying mean?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): icelordess says it very well but I am also afraid you might be encourage by her endurance of 8 years in a LDR, WOW! I have been in one less than 22 month and it is challenging. But wait you say! If you really love the person it should be easy? On the contrary, if you really love the person it is even harder!
My guess is that this girl is protecting herself from heart ache. If you care about her you should respect her feelings. Tell her you apologize for the silence and you also have no regrets and move on. I know, easier said than done but maintain the silence on a good note and keep going one day at a time.
Good luck!
Tony
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