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I cheated on my ex as a teenager, and now my current boyfriend cant let it go and says he wont ever be able to trust me!

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Question - (6 January 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 6 January 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *ittleMissy writes:

Hi, well I'm with a guy at the moment and everything is amazing, apart from one thing, before I was with this guy I had a bf who I cheated on whilst drunk, the guy I cheated with was a total nutjob stalker type. It was complicated at the time, totally out of character for me and although it was 2 years ago, I still question why I did it. Hand on heart I would never do it again, it's totally not in my morals.

Anyway; the problem: the guy I'm with now, who I truly truly love, and want to spend the rest of my life with knows about my past and cannot let it go. He says he can never trust me cos iv done it before to another person and sometimes he goes really over the top saying I'm a whore etc... On the one hand I understand his doubts, on the other hand, I feel he has no right punishing me for a past he knows nothing about (I wasn't in a good emotional state at the time).... I really want to make things work with him, I love him to peices. Is there anyway I can make him see I'm not that person, I made a mistake at 17/18 years old and I'd never do it again? Or is this karma?.... I broke my exes heart so now it's my turn....

Please help me, I don't want to loose him, really :( especially about this cos I know if he gave me a chance I could be the best thing that ever happened to him.

Thanks

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A female reader, pancakes rule Ireland +, writes (6 January 2010):

pancakes rule agony auntTry not to bring it up if he just calls you names.

Make sure that he knows you feel guilty about cheating and that you know it's wrong.

Gain his trust by taking this relationship slowly, give him time and space.

Prove that you want to be with him by making even small gestures (you'll have to think of these yourself)

Tell him you love him, and mean it, at least once a day.

good luck

xx

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