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writes:I recently found out I was pregnant with my ex's baby, we have generally got on well until I found out he had lied to me about seeing another girls whilst we were split up for a bit, then lying about getting back together with her 2 days after I told him I was pregnant! Yesterday I went to his so we could discuss what to do with the pregnancy. This didnt go well and he got angry pushed and knocked me down, the police had to be called. Now I want nothing to do with him. I don't want to keep the baby as I can't handle having him in my life and the situation isn't right for a child. I don't know how to move on from all this. I also am concerned he may want to know what I am choosing to do, but I feel he has no rights after what happened.How best can I move on from this and do I need to tell him if I don't keep his child (I assume he will work it out eventually and at the moment he couldn't care less).
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, he's shown no interest in what I'm doing since that happened and I am not going to make any attempt to speak to him. If he asks me calmly and politely I will respond but that is as far as it goes. At least I know to make better choices with men in the future!!The situation is really depressing for me, I am just trying to stay positive.
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reader, mrswaldhauser +, writes (14 January 2013):
 This man does not have any legal rights whether or not you keep this baby but he does have moral ones. Perhaps if you two could work this out together and he could attend anger management classes and become a better citizen he could have access to the child should you decide to keep it. Remember, this child did not ask to come into this world and he did not ask to have a father who has already once been violent to his mother. Please don't give up this baby for the wrong reasons. If you feel you have the support from family and friends and can deal with being a single mother then go for it! Motherhood is something to be treasured. If you feel it would genuinely be better for this child not to be born then perhaps you should consider having an abortion. But now you have told this man you are pregnant with his child he will want to know eventually what you propose to do so you will have to tell him sooner or later. Remember, if you do keep the child and are scared for yours and childs safety then contact the police and inform them of what has happened and how you are feeling. They will issue this man with a warning and he will have to stay away from you unless he wants to go to prison or they will make him attend anger management classes should he wish to see the child in the future with your permission.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I'd like to go stay with my family but I've not told them I'm pregnant! I've told my good friend though and she was great.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (10 January 2013):
 No you do NOT need to tell this abusive monster what you plan to do, he is no longer entitled to have an opinion on or be informed about anything you do. If he tries to contact you again, take out a restraining order. Do what is best for you and take care yourself. Do not worry about his feelings on this.
Take some time for yourself, go stay with family if you can, so you can get the support you need. That sounds truly awful to go through.
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