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writes: hi. I recently met this girl. We spent the first two nights and days together and it was amazing. We are both very into each other but my confidence is low given that I ended a long relationship about a year ago. We always say that we really like each other back and forth. My concern is that I am getting back into dating and don't want to screw this up. She is so wonderful. We went on our first date and things went well. I find myself worrying that I don't deserve her but I know she likes me because she tells me. I feel myself wanting to rush into things but am worried that will scare her away. How do I take it to the next level and let her know how she really is special and that I really am into her without looking like a freak who is trying to smother her? I at least know not to say "I love you" yet... I am the kind of guy who wants to send flowers, send text messages, buy expensive gifts, etc. but again don't want to scare away. Help help please... I am so happy to be in this situation but so scared to make things go the wrong way. I guess the key question is how do I get her to "be my girlfriend" as opposed to someone I am just dating??? Thanks for your help.
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reader, aunt_bec! +, writes (7 January 2006):
 You sound like a really great guy and you both sound really into each other.
My advice is to forget the expensive gifts and go right down to earth, an expensive gift can be a shock when we first start dating guys but we still love to be romanced.
My advice is take her to a park or to a beach but somewhere beautiful and remote, pick her sum flowers or if your at the beach find her a beautiful shell, tell her shes special and gorgeous.
Your confidence will be boosted by this and it will brig you closer together. I'd wait a few weeks before popping the question just so you can get to know each other better and create a stronger bond!
Have fun!
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reader, StarNews +, writes (7 January 2006):
 Since she already sounds into you, I think you have an even better chance of improving things between you by romancing her with flowers, etc. Girls love these type of gestures, with a guy that we adore.
The way that you get her to be your girlfriend is to ask her. I might give it some more time, since you said you've only spent a few days with her. Tell her that you think she is wonderful and special. Ask her how she would feel about seeing each other exclusively. Im sure she will be flattered.
I think your ideas are wonderful. Just do a little at a time and I'm sure you will slowly win her heart.
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