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writes:I have this strange relationship with a 34 year old man who lives in NYC(I am 22 and I live in Mexico), we see each other at least each month. At first it was all romantic, but he turned now to be distant, he is not dating with any other guys, and he stopped having hook ups, he told me he only feels comfortable having sex with me, but i would like him to be as romantic as he was before, i know this is a wierd relationship, but it had worked for more than a year, ive spent many times with him in NY, including a two month stay last year. What should I do?? Leave him?? Stay with him and wait until he falls in love again with me?? I really love him, more than anybody else... Reply to this Question
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (27 March 2007):
 Long distance relationships are hard, and only the totally devoted manage to keep things together for any amount of time.
You need to talk to this guy and ask him how he feels about you, if he see's a future for you both.
It sounds to be like he may be busy with other things in his life right now. Is there anyway you could move closer to each other?
Right now though I would go and see him as soon as I could and have a big heart to heart with each other, if he seems like he doesn't want you to go and see him, or he's distant when your there then I would end things with this guy, you deserve someone to make you feel confident and sure about yourself and not question everything that happens in this relationship.
Good Luck!
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reader, Midge +, writes (27 March 2007):
 Long distance relationships are never easy. My boyfriend and I lived 600 miles away from each other for a year before I moved closer to him. It was very difficult!
In most relationships, there does come a time when the romance does deminish. It can have an impact on the relatioship because one may be more romantic than the other and expect this. Whilst, one may be happy just to know that they have a partner and are comfortable knowing this.
You need to talk to him about what he expects from the relationship and whether he thinks there is any future for the both of you. Perhaps his feelings have changed, perhaps he is just so comfortable knowing he has a girlfriend and is too comfortable that the romance has deminished. You need to ask him where he sees the relationship going.
There is no point you sitting miles away wondering if he loves you, doesnt love you, wants to be together, doesnt want to be together. Speak to him! Find out where he's at, and then you can make some informed decisions about what you want!
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