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Things are great but I am bored, how can I spice things up?

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Question - (2 January 2014) 2 Answers - (Newest, 3 January 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

So, I've been with my boyfriend for two years and things are great I'm just bored. I don't know what to do about this, we go out alot and it just doesnt satisfy me (to put that in the most grateful way, we go and do things together alot, sex is dull and boring and i try to always avoid it and his past if he being disrepectful to me for a long time just wore me out and i feel like i forced myself to be attracted to him in the first place because he "chased" me for such a long time before i said yes to him finally. He's so loving, caring and everything wonderful in a man and like my bestfriend, I just don't know what to do, i love and care about him very much but im just not passionate, i'm bored and things feel so same old and dull every day, help?

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (3 January 2014):

person12345 agony auntBy what definition are things great? He treats you well, that's nice, but lots of guys will. You say you only went out with him because he was very persistent and you weren't that attracted at the beginning and it sounds like that attraction never really happened. It sounds like you're not just bored, you're also not romantically attracted to him. I'm just wondering why you stayed with him the whole two years. Without chemistry and attraction a relationship can't survive. That he is nice just isn't enough and it's not fair to him to stay when you don't feel the same way about him.

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A male reader, M Proops United Kingdom +, writes (3 January 2014):

You love him but you're not "in love" with him.If you're not happy then you should split.You sound just like friends to me.There should still be some passion there after 2 years

Can you Imagine being married to him 30 years then?

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