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writes:i am in year 10 at the moment and there is a teacher and i really like him i cannot stop thinking about him i love him and i was talking to someone and they sed i am to young to fall in love but i have been feeling like this since year 7.he has taught me every year so far and i know that he will be teaching me through year 11 as well.i really dont know what to dodo i really love him?how do i stop thinking about him.i am 14 and he is 29 plz plz plz help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): I was once in the same boat as yours. I was 14 and he was 29 when I first met him. He taught me for one year.
Ask yourself if you are normally attracted to men this age, more than men your own age. If you do, there is a chance you could be falling in love with him. If you mostly like boys your own age, then it is probably just a crush that will fade away in time.
If he is reciprocating any feelings toward you without touching you through soul gazing across the room or whatever, the chances are greater that you will fall for him extremely hard, and it will take maturity beyond your years to keep it inside. Of course, if he starts touching you, you need to report it.
Do your very best to keep your feelings to yourself until you finish school. That shows him that you are mature. Some feelings will still show on your own without you trying to, so he will still know you're interested. Becoming clingy, needy, or obsessive will turn him off completely. So will him finding out you've told other people, ESPECIALLY other teachers. Trust is a big, big issue with the male gender.
I was rejected by my teacher after I graduated because couldn't hold my feelings in. I was touching him all the time. DON'T do that, no matter how much you want to. Realize that waiting for him doesn't guarantee anything. He may very well brush you off later to keep his reputation, even if you're the girl of his dreams.
If he's not worth the risk of getting your heart ripped out over, then find someone else. There are a lot of fish in the sea. I married a man 19 years older than me. There is nothing wrong with age differences. But you are still quite young. Enjoy your teenage years. Don't try to grow up too fast.
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reader, SharksTooth +, writes (7 November 2010):
I thought I was 'in love' with my teacher for years, when I was old enough to see him, which I did for a short period of time, I realised I actually had nothing in common with him, he's way older than me and it was just simply a crush. I know it's frustrating when people say your not old enough to be in love and you truly believe you are, but truth is when you look back on this you'll realise you weren't at all. As for stopping thinking about him, you clearly can't avoid him and its ok to have a crush, but when you're not around him and you think about him, best thing I can advise is keep yourself occupied, find a hobby your passionate about. Or you could try writing what you feel about him down in a diary, it lets off some frustration and steam.
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reader, anna_1209 +, writes (6 November 2010):
I had a massive crush on one of my teachers when I was 15, and it really upset me when everyone said nothing could happen and I should get over it. But its true. If you've felt like this over your teacher for years its more likely an infatuation than love (and believe me I know how that feels!). He could never become involved with you because, firstly you're underage and secondly he would lose his job even if you were over 16. Its hard to stop thinking about it but the best thing to do is concentrate on other things in your life - friends, schoolwork, and try and get to know guys your own age. Older men, especially authority figures can be very attractive but I'm sure you could find plenty of nice 14 year old guys who you will have lots more in common with :) good luck, you're not alone in feeling like that, the important thing is to realise that nothing will happen and move on.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (6 November 2010):
 No, you are infatuated. Your hormones are crazy at your age. I remember "being in love" with my history teacher for 4 years. Now I'm 21 and I don't even remember his name!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): You know, if i had a £1 for everytime i saw a post like this i'd be a millionaire. It's perfectly natural to develop a crush at your age but that's all it is.When i was at school, about 8 years ago, i was convinced i was "in love" with one of my teachers now i'm an adult i have no idea why because he wasn't even attractive. It will pass, trust me. When you eventually leave school you won't even give him a second thought.
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