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writes:Please help me. There is this guy I have fallen for. I am just about 18, and he is 20. He is 2 and a half years older than me almost exactly. My parents love him and think he is a sweetheart. But they won't let me date him. Their reasons: he is too old for me, and him going into his junior year in college, and me going into my senior year in high school, that we are at different points in our live. I completely understand the last reason. College/high school difference, but he's known me and my parents for 3 years now, and we met playing in an orchestra pit for a local musical when he was still in high school. We talk all the time, he has completely swept me off my feet, and goes to the local college in my town. He's an amazing man, and I've never fallen so hard for someone. It happened in the second year of us knowing eachother. I really need help as to how to convince my parents he isn't to old for me and to allow me to date him. They trust him too, which makes this more confusing for me. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 June 2012):
 If you are just about 18, why can't you wait till you are 18?
once you are 18 it's legal. right now with you 17 and him 20 it's not legal for him to touch you....
your parents like him
the best thing to do is NOT try to convince your parents of anything... you will be arguing for your own limitations (i.e. by arguing that you should be ALLOWED to date him you PROVE to your parents that your not mature enough to do so)
BEST thing to do
bide your time till you are 18
remain good friends... (and if you two feel that strongly about it just WAIT your parents out)
have him in the home WITH YOUR PARENTS around at all times..
DO NOT try to sneak behind their back
part of being a mature adult is being able to wait for things you want.
show them you are mature enough to date this man...
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reader, LaceratedReality  +, writes (26 June 2012):
No matter how much they say they "trust" this boy of yours - they know that he is just a young boy and young boys only want one thing.Perhaps by showing you can respect their decision (knowing they have been through all of this too when they were young) it might just show you are mature enough to date this older boy.There is no magic way of convincing your parents this or that - there is no secret so nobody here is going to give it to you.Unfortunately whilst you are still under their roof you have to conform to their rules.
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