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writes:My buddy's dating a new girl. He's looking to settle down and he thinks she great but I think he's tolerating too much. Am I way off on this? I think the fact he's looking for get married soon is affecting his perception.They've been going out for 6 months and she flips on him because she thought the "surprise" was that he was going to propose to her. WHAT??? He was stunned, as was I. He bit his lip to remain composed. I'm seeing huge red flags! This is nuts. She's not very experienced, they fight a lot and she's so irrational at times. She gives my sister really bad vibes.I think he can do better. He's my good friend, I don't want to open my mouth and ruin something if he's so happy. Please enlighten me if I'm way off the bat on this one before I start speaking my mind with him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (28 January 2009):
 I don't think there is a problem with you letting him know you are worried for him. Girls tell their friends all the time when the girl's boyfriend is a jerk etc, what's the difference? The only thing I would say is don't insult her to him. Why not just say "I'm worried about how she acted about you not proposing so soon. What do you think? I just don't want you to rush anything with this girl and make a mistake." I don't think there is a problem talking to him about it since he is your best friend. But like I said just don't insult her. That should be the only reason he would be offended and hurt, I doubt he would be "ruined" if you just mentioned you were worried about her response to the non-proposal. Maybe he can even talk to her or tell you what she said about it to get her side. She may seem irrational to you but maybe there is a reason why she was acting this way. It's hard to see everything when you aren't in the relationship. Good luck.
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reader, anonymousgirl09  +, writes (28 January 2009):
This is your friends life and he needs to sort out his own problems. Its not your place to decide for him and he may not appreciate it. However, if its really starting to get bad and your friend is getting upset then just sit and chat to him before doing anything rash,
sorry if this isnt what you wanted and i hope it helped :D
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