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writes:There's this guy friend I've had feelings for, for a very long time now. I told him about this quite a while ago, but he didn't feel the same way, so we just stayed friends. Since then, I've pretended I've gone off him, but I really haven't.It's been very hard for me these past few months. I've tried to help him out with issues with his love life, as a friend, but I get incredibly jealous and sometimes I just feel like I want to tell him I'm falling for him- but I can't for fear of rejection, again.I think he knows that I've not completely gone off him, but he was always okay with it. It didn't change things between us.But lately.. he's been acting very differently. He's been spending a lot more time with me and we'll find ourselves talking for hours. He makes sweet, little gestures too and he never mentions things about people he likes anymore- he just focuses his attention on me. He makes me feel really special and mushy inside ^^.Now, I get the feeling he finally likes me too, but something tells me not to jump at the chance just yet. I think I'm scared of being rejected again, but I'm not sure. Is there any way to see whether he likes me without asking him straight out?One last little note is, my friend is bisexual, so I'm a bit unsure if this changes what people think. I'm the only person he's told so far about this as well.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (31 May 2007):
 it doesn't mattter about his sexulity loads of boys and girls go through a time in there lives where they think they might be bisexual but it will go away.
it seems like you should talk to him i no u are worried about what the answer is goin 2 be but you should ask him want he wants out of this relationship as he is givin u signs that he may like u talk 2 him its the only way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): There is a couple of tactics that you could take. If you are feeling like your relationship is finally turning romantic, which it sounds from you post that it is, I would NOT bring up the "talk" i.e. where is this relationship going, do you love me, are we exclusively dating... Let him bring it up, or he may freak out and feel pressured. People tend to want what seems unobtainable, hence your pining away for him, and respect and have passion for things that they have to work a little to get. Since you have become a close friend, he has developed an attachment to you and by being his friend you are closer than you think to being his romantic partner...just pull back on occassion instead of pressing forward, let him work to have access to you and that will drive his passion.
He says he is bisexual, actually this could be a phase he is going through, if not, can you stand to be involved with someone who does not have to make a choice between the two sexes to be involved with? I know I could not. What ever you decide it sounds like you have a good friend here.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (31 May 2007):
 Your friend's sexuality isn't an issue, here. One big lesson in life is that people change over time. It may be that he's going out of his way to cheer you up, because he realized that you got your hopes up. He also may have changed. Sit him down, and ask him what's going on in his head. You need to ask yourself what's going to hurt worse, living with it, or getting closure. I think that you'll find that you would rather take a chance and have closure.
Reach inside and believe in yourself. You'll be fine! :)
DV1
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