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writes:Now it's my turn to ask for advice. I'm in love with a man, he's only 2 years and 11 months older than me, but at this age that can make a difference in experience. He's been in serious relationships before, I haven't. Actually, I avoided them due to past experiences. He has proven to me on more than one occasion that he loves me immensely, and that he would do anything to make me happy. Just sometimes... I used to be afraid to be myself, and express what I wanted to do, or what I liked. We've even been able to work through that.. granted, it took a while.I have cried more today than I can remember ever crying. I stressed him out with a stage of stubborness, due mainly to the amount of stress the both of us are going through, and the fact I didn't see why it was a problem. We resolved it, but I feel terribly guilty. At work, he got sent to the hospital after coughing up blood while trying to explain he thought he had another kidney stone. Turns out, that's not all he got. He gained a peptic ulcer, and shingles as well. Should I stop blaming myself? He thinks I should...On top of that, my ex led me on tonight. He made it seem like he wanted to admit he still loved me, and that me moving to NY (I'm currently in VA, USA) would rip his heart out. Then, when I was talking to him, he started talking about how much he was in love with my best friend. And this wasn't exactly the worst day I've had this summer. What's the chances of me breaking down from all this stress? Any tips on how to vent?
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reader, Amethyst +, writes (10 August 2006):
Amethyst is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for the advice. I had a nice long talk with him today and thought about all of my options. I told him I was sorry that I wasn't as ready as I thought but he said that's why we're working on it. He didn't expect me to be ready, it IS my first serious relationship after all. As long as we truly love each other and are willing to work with each other on our faults, we will make it, right?
Ohhhh! I know that's the WRONG reason, trust me, I've been preaching that in nearly ever question I've responded too. I do love him, so much so that I don't like him being this stressed.
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (9 August 2006):
 The gymn is always a good option, or maybe a martial arts class.
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reader, Amethyst +, writes (9 August 2006):
Amethyst is verified as being by the original poster of the question**I forgot a main question... sorry...Is it possibly that I'm not ready for a serious relationship? I try to make it work but my childish side can sometimes rise and I'll have to fight down the desire to do something unnecessary that may cause a problem. A random example would be me going somewhere with my sister, who has earned a rep of being hated.... no need to elaborate.
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