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writes: Hi..people are in the same situation as me-it is good to see. I have stumbled upon a great younger woman (a bit younger-15 years) in the restaurant/bar I go to. The best vibe/silliness goes on between us every time I go in the place and it has led to something of a strong/good feel for both of us. I feel it important to wait a bit for time to go by (til she's 20-21 maybe)....why-I'm not sure...in crossing even the dating threshold. It feels like we are on a date when we see each other and goof around while she's on the job. Everyone (the regulars) knows we have this silly connection, too...only I don't think it's silly. It is refreshing as I can't get this feeling of fun/liking someone (without sounding like a dork here) as I do with women I've recently dated my age or just slightly younger. Any thoughts for me on continuing with this great fun with her? I'm teetering on the fact that people think its a bad age thing.....but I have learned that what people think is not always for my best interest. Thanx for opinions on both sides of my situation! Reply to this Question
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (27 December 2005):
 There is no problem provided she is over 16. If you have fun together and you both like each other then go for it, as the saying goes "age aint nothing but a number" and its true.
But bear in mind she may not be ready for a committed relationship, unless she is i'm not sure.
But best of luck everyone deserves to be happy!
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reader, pops +, writes (25 December 2005):
15 years doesn't make much difference when you are older, but at 20-21, it should. She is too young both in maturity, and in experiences for the two of you to last very long. If she is 25 and older when you two begin being serious, I think you stand a better chance of things working out. Obviously, there can be no hard and fast rule, as every couple is different as are each of the people. I have known several couples who met later in life, where age differences this great did not bother either of them. But, the younger people are, the more difficult it is to find things in common to share. I suspect, for instance, that you don't have the same taste in music, for a start. If you are worried about what other people think, you are too young to be dating this woman! You haven't told us how young the lady really is. If she is under 20, you definitely are going to be surprised at the differences, and the different expectations she has for a relationship than you do.
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