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writes:I am a gay guy. There's this new guy at a restaurant I go to. He started looking at me from the first day he started to work. I noticed he looks at me very often and gives me a shy smile. I also showed interest. He shows interest whenever I look at him. I am not sure what he thinks, but I am also feeling something towards him. The problem is the owner is always close by and we can't talk a lot. Today I went not just to have meals, but hoping I get a chance to speak to him. He was kind of busy because of a lot customers, and I couldn't talk to him. I casually asked his name, he replied but he was really busy - made me very sad...How do I know for sure?? Should I ask his phone number or ask him out?? How to do this without the owners noticing it??
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (1 May 2014):
 I think you're worrying way too much and over analysing the situation. He probably told the other guy because he was excited. He can't control how the guy reacts. Just relax and stop creating problems before they even start. You worry too much.
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reader, wise-guy  +, writes (1 May 2014):
Do you think the guy you're interested in told his friend in a mocking way or do you think his friend just took his news the wrong way? Some people just like to make fun out of any situation because they aren't nice people, or they can't help making fun without thinking of the hurt it may cause. Maybe he is just teasing.
I'd try and bring it up with the guy you like and see what he thinks of the whole situation
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHad a nasty experience today. The guy I'm interested in has told one of the guys at the restaurant that I asked for his phone number!! Now the other guy is making fun of me in front of others, including the owner. As soon as I walked in he asked me if I asked for the number, in front of everybody. What should I do?? Now it is awkward for me to go there with the other guy publicly making fun of me. Why did my friend tell the other guy? Was I led on?? Should I stop going there? Will they tell my other friends?? :(
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reader, Intrigued3000 +, writes (30 April 2014):
That is awesome! Have a great time and enjoy the butterflies:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2014): Thanks for both of you!! In fact despite the crowd, I asked him for his number and asked him out and he agreed!! He agreed to give the number in the evening. I just hope I won't be disappointed. I haven't dated for long time, and feel very very excited. Cant' help Feeling like a teenager....!!Keep those comments coming... and wish me luck!!
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reader, Intrigued3000 +, writes (30 April 2014):
I agree with wise-guy. You got some great signs that he's interested. If there were a lot of people around, then it was probably awkward for him to respond properly to you. Be patient and approach him when it is less busy.
You should definitely ask him out. If you want to avoid the owner's scrutiny, then perhaps approach him at the end of his shift when he is outside of the restaurant. I did this once when I was younger. I pretended to be in the neighbourhood, when a guy I was interested in was finished his shift, and "accidentally" bumped into him...lol...anyway long story short, we started talking and ended up exchanging numbers and dated for a bit:)
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reader, wise-guy +, writes (28 April 2014):
This is a very good question - it's hard to know when or how to ask someone (male or female!)
Well personally I think the signs are pretty good so far. I mean he seems to be showing some kind of initial interest and he isnt put off by your smiles and looks.
Don't be too sad that he hasn't really spoken to you, he's just busy :)
Just give it some time and see how things work out - I think you should certainly ask him to talk and ask for his number at least - Just wait for a quiet moment when things at work aren't too busy
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