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writes:I am 23yr old dating a boy for a few weeks, he says he wants to marry me but in 2yrs time. Recently I found out that he is only 18yrs old. When I asked him he aplogised and says that he still loves me and wants to get married but I told him that I am too old for him and we can be just friends.Did I do the right thing? Was he just using me? Most of the boys who have propsed to him are younger than me, why is that so? Reply to this Question
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reader, creepy gothic girl  +, writes (21 March 2007):
Dear Ageist,
My boyfriend and I are three years, five months and two days apart. Now here's the shocking part, Jon is the younger one! I am 22 and he is 18. Trust me the fact your former boyfriend was 18 and you're 23 isn't that different. For one thing once they turn 18 they are legal. I started dating Jon when he was sixteen years old. I was twenty. We have been together two years now and he is the best boyfriend I have ever had. He's my best friend and someday I am going to get married to him. I dated guys my own age and older and it never worked out. They were immature, needy, and inconsiderate. Jon is older then they are upstairs. Likewise, I once dated a guy a year older then Jon who was worse then all of them. He used our two year age difference as the basis to make me feel guilty. Age depends on the person you are dating. Not all 18 year olds are the same. This boy sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders believe it or not. Sometimes, even in three weeks time you can tell if you can really love each other, and once you have been dating two years why not get married? I mean obviously you are having doubts on letting him go or you wouldn't be writing. I don't think he was using you in the least. You should give him another chance because you never know---he could be the best boyfriend you ever had. I originally held out on Jon for a year before I went out with him because i thought he was too young for me. I wish i hadn't waited so long...when i think of all the barflies and ladies men i dated before him I shiver...the point is give the boy a chance to see if he really is too young for you or not. Also, the reason I think young guys purpose more often then older ones is because they are less expeierced and less knowledgable of the world. THis is a good thing and a bad thing, but you just got to learn to roll with it. Give the youngin a ride in your icecream truck!
Terminally Morbidly Yours,
Creepy Gothic Girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007): age is only a number and shouldn't matter in these circumstances but what you need to listen to is instinct. If it doesn't feel right for you then it isn't. Go with your gut feeling. Walk away.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007): If you felt it was right, then it was. I see no issue with time difference after youre 18. My mom is 44 and my step dad is 30. Talk about a difference. If he still loves you, give it a shot. In 2 years he'll be 20 and out of his teens! and wont seem so young.
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