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writes: I've been in a loving sexual relationship with my girlfriend for about 7 months now and up until a couple of weeks ago everything was perfect. My girlfriend has recently had an "epiphany" where she started to get involved with the church again and has now decided she doesn't want to have sex with anyone until she gets married! (She was a non-practicing Christian when we met and hasn't been to church in 7 months. I'm as non-religious as it gets) And its not just the sex thats gone.. I feel like I'm dating a different person... She has become more closed, moody and over-sensitive about everything. I love my girlfriend to bits and don't want to lose her... I think I could even do without the sex.. I just want my girlfriend back. Its not even as if it was building up... this just came completely out of the blue! There is a lot more to it but I don't want to ramble on :) Any advise you can give would be appreciated.. thanx:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): you need to take an interest in her beliefs. try going to church. it may be for a reason, maybe God is reaching out to you through your g.f. He works in mysterious ways. I can tell you He is real. If you just give Him a chance to be in your life, you will not regret it. Maybe what you need is to change as well. There is no harm in trying & being supportive of her, is there?
A reader, Travis Isbell, writes (1 March 2005): Dear ?,I have some advice for you. Although I am a baby in the ways of life I wo uld think that it would be best for you to get involved in her new relationship with God. Check out this church she goes to, offer to drive her there then go on a date with her afterwards and start to slow things down and try again to find out who she has become. Try to pick her brain ask her questions about herself and findout whats change, above all compliment her, make her feel secure about herself, then of course tie your relationship bacak to you, and you will have a stronger foundation then you had before for it will be stronger than the first because of this trail that you have gone through.
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reader, Devil's Advocate +, writes (28 February 2005):
 Like they say, three's a crowd!You need to have your own epiphany and discover porn, binge drinking, belching and walking around the house naked. This will no doubt test her beliefs and will show you how much she cares about your relationship.Amen
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A reader, shirley, writes (28 February 2005): It's sound's that your girlfriend obviously had the faith before you both met, then put it on hold most probaly for your sake (religion is a funny thing, there is no sitting on the fence, you either do or don't believe). For someone who holds the faith, 7 months can be a long time going without her place of worship or anticipating in some way. Just hold on in there! You say the sex side of it doesn't bother you that much, but the "different" person you are now seeing does. She is moody because she sense's how uncomfortable you are with it. She is frustrate because she knows'it will be difficult to explain to you what she gets from her "faith" or "church going". Try to be thankful that she is not a different person person because of drugs, or drink, or that she is having an affair. Her intentions are pure & good. I don't suspect for one second that she would expect to convert you, or for you to understand her beliefs. But I know it would work wonders if you tried to understand that she is very much the same person that you met, there is just alot more to her.
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