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writes: I have never had an orgasm. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and he has never been able to get me to orgasm. I love having sex with him and I always enjoy it... what can I do to help increase my chances of having an orgamsm?
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, jewels, writes (8 March 2005): Hi .....I have been there.I was with my now ex husband for 14 years and never had a orgasam.It affected me so much .He told me that it was my problem and that i obviousley have a problem and that i obviousley cant and will never have them.....No.Times have changed .My ex was my first ever sexual partner and all i knew was him.Since getting a divorse for reasons of his doing i had a couple of relationships one of which set me free.He taught me to get to know my body and touch myself which i did in private. He also said to get myself a vibrator and i did ...THE RABBIT.since then i have never looked back my first orgasam was when i was 28 and im now 30.Getting to know your body is so important no matter how old you are or experiane you have had.If you are very sensitive in your vagina area and find it too senstive to touch keep/go with it and the sensations will become better untill you sart to feel a warm feeling and a tingling feeling starting from your toes upwards.Belive me when it happens to you fro the first time you will never look back go with your feelings and relax...HERES TO YOUR FUTURE.
A reader, shirley, writes (28 February 2005): Many women (if they are honest) will tell you exactly the same. Try out new positions which allows you free access to the neccesary area's in order for "you" to be able to stimulate yourself (some men find this a great turn on) Or introduce sex toys, you can purchase these items very discreatly through catalogues or online. Not only are these toys fun for you, your partner will get a great deal of pleasure from them too.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (28 February 2005):
 Can you have an orgasm through manual masturbation? On your own? You could try this first. Find out what gives you pleasure by stimulating your clitoris. Once you have discovered what really turns you on you could then show your boyfriend how to touch you and share the experience together.You say you enjoy the experience of making love which is good but is there enough foreplay? Ask your boyfriend to gently caress and touch you all over, concentrating only on your pleasure before you have intercourse.You need to be in tune with your body. Not many women experience an orgasm through intercourse anyway but you could increase your chances by getting your boyfriend to arouse you very much just before having intercourse with you and then to continue to stimulate you as you make love (this could be done with you both lying on your sides like spoons or with you on all fours and him having intercourse with you from behind).I don't know what your boyfriend has been doing to try to get you to orgasm but perhaps you are both concentrating too much on you actually trying to have an orgasm. Take the pressure off by not looking at it as an essential goal. Have plenty of foreplay, tell him exactly what you like and hopefully the rest will follow.Good luck.
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