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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year now and we just moved off to college. We both have never been so happy in our lives but last week someone I know started a rumor about her cheating on me. Although I trust her completely because of some the more personal things shes been through in her life that makes me believe it wasnt true and also because we both lost our virginity to each other and always said we would never do anything to put one another in this situation. When I told her about the rumor she took it very hard and now is very upset and angry not only with me but all of my friends bc she thinks they hate her now. Although she said she loves me and cares she just keeps pushing me away now. She says she feels like shes having to prove herself to me and she just doesnt feel good enough. Although I know she is good enough she just sees it differently because of personal reasons in past relationships. Is there anything I can do to help this because I couldnt imagine losing her. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): Just stop believing these evil rumours. Someone is jealous of the love you two have between you and they are trying to break you up. Just put it to the back of your mind and stop spoiling what you have together. There are some evil cruel people out there, so stop listening to them and listen to her.take carexx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): I am the one who subbmitted this question and this is directed at the first answer when you said I should spend more time with her. Shes so hurt and mad that she just doesnt even want me to be around her or be with her right now so its hard to do even that.
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reader, Skeez  +, writes (11 September 2007):
 I understand that you girlfriend is now angry and very sad about all this. I would be too. If you know who made up this rumour then the thing that your girlfriend is probably hoping is that you sought this out and tell what the person did was very wrong. Also keep on reasuring her tht you dont believe what they have all said. Its undertandable that your girlfriend is going to feel awkward and not liek your friends anymore. Basically shes been assumed to be a cheater and if shes a sensetive girl its going to really get to her. Even if she didnt cheat she is most probably still going to be upset.
what you should maybe do is just hang around with her more. if you knwo the person who started the rumour talk with them and get it cleared why they started it.
oh and also make them aplogize to her if you can
goodluck
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reader, Escalaya +, writes (11 September 2007):
 well, i'd say just reassure her that you don't believe the rumors, that you trust her completely, and that you love her.
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