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writes:HI everyone, i need some advice. i am now 22 years old and i am the 4th year student at my college. There is one male professor in my college. He is 36 years old and hold PHD. Anyway, for the last 6 months, all of my friends observed that he always stare at me too often and too obvious. Recently, i have known him more. He helped me tutoring a lots and we share many similarities, such as; interest the same stuff. To be honest, i always feel like he is very professional. i once asked him to explain me some lesson. He insisted that he will explain me only at college, not somewhere else.In spitie of living in the same area. Time passes, we know each other more. We always talk nicely.We sometimes talk about our personal life.but that's all we do and i try to be subtle as much as possible. ( He also knew that my ex boyfriend is about the same age with him ). everything seems go well.... BUT, last week, i have to go to the some shop near by his place to buy loads of stuffs for donation. i bumped into with him and told him that i will go to that shop. He offered me to assist to choose the stuff and he also get 20 discounts percent for me. It is the first time that we spend time outside college. We enjoyed that time a lots, we had fun chossing many stuffs. Before i left him on that day, i simply say thank you to him nicely and politely. But then, the next day, i do not know what's wrong with him, He tried not to talk to me and avoid me. He did not even say HI to me when i walked pass him at college, which is not usual. He tried to avoid me all day. In the evening, i saw him online, so, we had some short conversation about the lessons from the class ( very polite) and then i just tease him that will i get extra point if i write more paper. He said No, so i just told him that you are so mean.( just kidding him ). THen , he answered me quite weird that " being mean is part of my nature" i was so confused, then i said " I alredy knew" Then, he replied that " WE all have to draw a line somewhere" that made me confuse more... So, i do not know what happened to him after spending time with mw one hour outside college. Actually, there was nothing specila, except we talked very closed and i was so cheerful like i was. I do not understand that why he had to avoid me the next day and did not even talk to me. TO b frank, i also have the feeling for him, but i am not sure what does he think about me. Can anyone give me some advices or opinion about my problem..thank you very much
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reader, kitty_3  +, writes (17 January 2010):
 i think you should keep being nice, but maybe not go out of your way to talk to him for a couple of weeks so he has time to think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, thank you so much for all ur advice. But i still do not know what should i do next. Should i ignore him or talk to him nicely like usual when we are at the college. But last time. i was thinking to say hi to him, he did not even look at me. So, i dunno wat should i do next? if i ignore him, will he notice something wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): I think he might realize where things are heading, and is worried about his job. In many cases where a professor is caught having relations with a student, the professor ends up being fired; or at the least suspended pending an investigation. I think he likes you, but is afraid of losing his job. That would explain why he changed all of a sudden. You should wait until you finish college, then try for something with him.
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reader, Faraday  +, writes (17 January 2010):
 It seems to me that is an easy one to answer. He has maintained a professional distance at college, as he should, but in fact cares for you. Not sure how strongly, but enough!
When you met outside college, his guard was down; he enjoyed it too much and now has had time to reflect on the situation.
Maybe he has over-reacted a little by returning to an even greater professional distance?
Anyway, it isn't your fault and he does not hate you, just needs time to re-adjust.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (17 January 2010):
From wut u describe it sounds like he finds himself attracted to you but he is ashamed in this. He doesn't want to pursue it becuz he feels it wud be wrong. He said about drawing a line meaning he doesn't feel like he can keep himself from crossing that line. If u want drama in ur life than u can try to seduce him. If u don't then leave him alone. If u tried to see this man outside of college it might not be a healthy thing to do.
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