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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm with a really kind lovely guy but there's just no physical attraction on my part. We've had sex about 3/4 times and it's just completely boring for me! I do usually enjoy sex but it's more like just having sex for the sake of it or to keep him happy. Don't get me wrong, he never asks for it or anything but we've not been together in that way now for about 2 months and I desperately want to enjoy it for myself. Although it would be easy to say "if you're not attracted then move on" but he is perfect in every other way :S Any tips? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): Dump him. You're robbing him of joy, too. You'll only build up resentment, and so will he. He'll figured it out, trust me. I know. I had been with about 12 women, and loved sex, and so did my lovers. When I met my wife, I thought it was because she hadn't cummed before (which wasn't new to me - I had turned several women on to the joys and gifts of sex), but now she's cummed, regularly, too; she just doesn't like sex. It's been a HUGE disappointment in my life. I feel I made BIG mistake because I so much miss being with a women who enjoys having sex, and being with me.
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reader, lightningrod247  +, writes (14 February 2009):
Yeah, I used to feel the same way about my guy. I think there is such thing as having no chemistry with someone. But is having all of that other stuff worth having no chemistry? Thats a question you have to ask yourself.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 February 2009):
Well if you are looking to settle for this guy rather than holding out for someone decent, AND run the risk that you'll leave him for someone who DOES attract you further down the line, hurting him badly in the process.... then that's sad, but understandable.
Perhaps you are not strong enough to be a single woman? If so they forcing a friendship into something more is great for you. The sucker will probably love you and dote on you and never figure out that you are using him.
I suggest you close your eyes, and think of someone else. Best make it an imaginary someone else so he can have the same name as your boyfriend - you wouldn't want to lose it and call out the wrong thing!
Also you should buy a vibrator as you are never going to be completely satisfied in this relationship.
Is your boyfriend rich? If you are staying with him for his company rather than letting him find a girl who would actually love him and give him the relationship he wants, at least make sure he has a decent credit card.
If you are going to use someone then use them to the fullest extent!
Good Luck!! xx
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