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36-40,
*ockeynut316
writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 9 months and we are in love. At the beginning of our relationship, we used to mess around all the time. There wouldn't be a chance that went missed without us having sex or even passionately kissing. But in the past few months or so, our relationship has turned full circle. She says she's lost her "sex drive". She has no desire to do anything with me. Not even make out. The most I've gotten in 2 months was a small kiss and a stroke on the back of my neck. When I confront her about this, she seems genuinely upset. She doesn't want to hurt me and she knows she is to blame. She just doesn't know how to get her "drive" back.Just two weeks ago, she made the drastic movement of leaving to be alone for a month. She thinks it will help get her old sexy self back. I think it's just pulling our relationship further downhill. Now I have no passion in the relationship AND I'm alone.There has to be another way....a man has needs. If only I could get something, anything...
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (5 January 2008):
 This actually happened with me and my boyfriend for a while.
We've been together a year, but after 6 or 7 months, we'd settled into a routine, were living together, and I think subconsciously your mind tells your body that you don't have to try so hard to impres the other - like when girls put a ton of weight on when they feel comfortable with their partner, that initial phase dies down when you becom comfortable with each other.
It really bothered my boyfriend, like it does you. He told me he couldn't have a relationship with no passion. I completely agreed - I missed the sex but just couldn't face it. But to be honest, it was me being lazy. We'd got in a little rut and you have to work at these things. So I made an effort and we got back into the swing of things and our sex life is great now, back on between 3 and 5 times a week.
Some things can affect a girls sex drive as well, the contraceptive pill and injection, medication, low moods/depression...
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