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writes:I had sex and I missed my period and when I took a test it came came back positive! I don't even love this guy. Should I get an abortion? Should I tell my parents? What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): hun, being pregnant is a very scary thing... no one can tell you what to do, no one can tell you to abort or keep it or adopt it.. thats up to you, even the father of the child cant tell you.. its your choice, its your body... you decide... you can look up the pros and cons, maybe youtube some videos of abortion and see how it goes....
as far as TruBlueEyedBlonde, that is not always true.. how are you saving the baby any pain by drilling a hole in its head, sucking out its insides, and cutting it up into peices, then vaccuming it out.. let me do that to you and you tell me how i am saving you pain!
as far as martini, You are right, now now its most-likely the size of a 4th of a bottle cap, but still... it is life, and it takes 3-4 weeks to show up on a pregnancy test, does not mean it takes 3-4 weeks to get the sperm in the egg and to have the baby start growing, the second the sperm is in the egg, and they attach... the baby is growing...
i think for you, the best advice anyone can give you is to talk to your parents, go to your mom i would think first.. mom's tend to be more understanding about this type of thing. just be like mom, i had sex with _______, and i think i am pregnant, i took a test but can you take me to a doctor? ORR go to a planned parenthood clinc near you.. look up where one is on google, and you can talk to them and find out more options then.... best of luck hun
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 The last two weeks, we have seen this question many times. The aunts have given their fair share of the pros and cons of abortion and adoption.
Here's what you need to do in the next few hours.
1. Take a deep breath. Take a cold shower, or soak in a warn bath. Get the aromatic candles lit. (No this is not to romance someone)
2. Get a piece of paper and a pen. Write down what you need to do until this weekend.
3. Search this site using keywords "teen pregnancy" "15 16 17 18 pregnancy" "adoption" "abortion" "keeping the baby". Read up on the answers. Write up some key suggestions on your piece of paper (see point 2).
4. Go to sleep. Do this again tomorrow if you need to.
5. Study your list, and prioritize on what needs to be done immediately, on who to talk to first, on what appointment you need to make fast.
6. Seek a support group and confide to them that you need them to be there for you. This can be your parents, your friends, your boyfriend, your school nurse etc etc.
7. Be stong.
Good luck.
Cat
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (3 March 2009):
 tell your parents and see what happens from there
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): Hold on a sec, I believe a lot of people have a misinformed idea about how babies are made in the first three weeks after a sperm enters an egg. You can't kill something that isn't there. Yes, I am talking to Kllgunner and the others whom are condemning this option. If your logic held true, then the millions of sperm that don't make it to the egg and dies is also 'killing life' that 'isn't' there.
First of all, in the initial stages of creation, the baby isn't even a baby yet. It's basically a mass of cells. There is no life for a mass of cells. They are just a group of cells multiplying to create the fetus. The actual formation of the fetus doesn't happen in the first 3 to 4 weeks.
Second of all, abortion is not a healthy thing to be done to your body. Mind you, this depends on how it's being performed on you.
Then again, the younger you are, the bigger the chance for damaging your body being pregnant and giving birth than if you are older.
Alternatives to abortion is have it and then give it up for adoption. If you want to have it aborted, the more 'moral' thing to do is do it within the first four weeks of pregnancy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): I'm sorry for you that you're facing this problem. You don't really need a lecture right now, so I'll skip it.
I have a daughter almost your age -- I'd hate for her to have to go through this and not feel like she could tell me. Only you know what kind of reaction you'll get from your parents, but they might surprise you. If you have any kind of decent relationship with either one of them, I'd urge you to think seriously about telling that parent.
Abortion, adoption -- that's your choice. I would urge you to get reliable information about *all* of your options, and to talk them through with an adult you trust. Keep in mind that certain organizations, such as Planned Parenthood, will advocate for abortion; some others, whether openly or secretly affiliated with a church, will do their best to convince you that abortion is not an option. Make up you own mind, in a way that's consistent with your values, and you'll have fewer regrets down the road.
As much as this looks like a disaster, it doesn't have to be. It's happened to millions of young women like you. Take a deep breath, find a responsible adult to help you through, and don't let yourself be rushed into anything. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): Do Not ABORT! If you don't want the child Then give it up for adoption, don't become a murderer. Is it your unborn childs fault that you had sex with someone you don't love?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): Every time someone says "don't get an abortion!" just ask them if they wouldn't mind supporting & raising your baby to age 18 since you're not in any position to do it at this point in your life.
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reader, kllgunner +, writes (2 March 2009):
 well first of all stop having sex with guys u dnt love and about the abortion its your choice jst know your stoping a chance for ur baby to grow up and have a life and ur killing and innocent child tell your parents right now thats all you can do and dnt get knocked up again.
-madly in love
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