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writes:My future in this relationship depends on what you guys think. Please read it and give some wise advice. I don't want to make the wrong decisions, or tell her things I don't mean. Please read as much as you can, and let me know!I have a problem with my current girlfriend! She is the most amazing girl in the world. She is sweet, caring and everything a guy would ever wish for a girl. However, here is a little problem!She has had about 7 boyfriends before. Sorry, I forgot to say she is 19. In the other hand, I'm the same age and I've only had 0 girlfriends. She is my first one. We started dating since last December 2007. However, we run into some problems and broke up during summer 2008. Then, we didn't see each other during summer at all because she leaves far away. Then, We went back to school. However, I found out that she had a new boyfriend she starting dating during summer. I got really pissed of course but there was not much I could do. Later on, she realized how dumb she was, and she went back with me. Of course, I had my arms open! At least most of the time! Then, we have been together ever since. However, I found out that she has not told her ex that she is going out with someone (me). According to her, she keeps in touch with him because he owes her $600 dollars. She talks to him once every 2 or 1 month. However, I also found out that all her other ex don't know that she is dating me. she keeps in touch with some of them. Especially one that got her pregnant. She aborted because she was young but she only talks to this guy once every month as well. However, I feel umcomfortable because i tell her that when she talks to them, they need to know that she is taken. I know she loves and that she is not planning to go back with them but I want her to see that it makes me feel uncomfortable. Especially when she keeps in touch once in a while with the guy that got her pregnant and with the guy that went out during summer while I had hopes of getting her back.She says she doesn't tell them because she doesn't want to hurt them and because one of them owes him money. I yet believe they are man, and they can take things like this. Especially when one boyfriend was ages ago and the other owes her money. She is afraid that one of them won't pay her if she tells him she is going with someone (me).We are a great couple only when we talked about what I mentioned before. yet, today she gave me her keys to do something at her room while she was at school. I know that in one of the drawers she keeps all my "cute and lovely" things that i've given her or done for her. Like notes, poems, drawings, etc. When I went to her room, I wanted to leave a special note in that drawing. A "love" letter so she would get surprise. However, when I opened it I realized she had a little card from her ex during summer. It looked like she got it during summer. In the little note, it was just cute and romantic stuff when they were going out. However, I got so mad that she had not got rid of it, and knowing that th note were with my stuff, I ripped it off. I also found a box of new cigarrates that I know she will smoke of got really depressed. Yet, she doesn't smoke AT ALL! the box was new. Anyways, I ripped both of them and threw them to the trash. She doesn't know about it! However, do you think she has the right to get mad at me (i know that I went through her stuff, but it was to leave her a note)Does she have the right to keep those notes with the stuff I've given her. Should she even keep those sort of notes? Should she tell those guys that she is going with me? What do you guys think about the whole situation?
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reader, kllgunner +, writes (2 March 2009):
 ok well u need to sit her down and tell her this stuff u cnt hide it if she loves you she will understand but u also need to tell her you went thru her stuff and found those things and that with best wishes she get rid of them because they are her past and u are her future. just tell her how you feel and hopefully shell understand best luck.
-madly in love
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