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anonymous
writes:hey basically i've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 months now. It started off very happy but there were some problems with the people surrounding me towards him (some of my friends). My boyfriend Jack was having a fling with this girl i knew and after a 2 weeks of them ending, i started going out with him. The way he treated my friend wasn't exactly amazing and so she seriosuly tarnished my friends outlook on him. A few now do not like him, sadly before they did so now he no longer hangs out as a part of the group. It's really hard juggling my friends and him and i feel like im not getting close to jack subconsciously on purpose because im scared of detaching myself from people and basically my social life. This is affecting how i feel about him - sometimes i think it would just be easier not to be with him because i stress myself so much as i don't know how i feel.Advice, Please X Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 October 2009):
I think there are two things here. First of all, your boyfriend wasn't all that accepting of your friends, which isn't always a good sign. You don't have to like your partner's friends, but you do need be polite and accept that your partner has friends. He didn't do that, so automatically was seen as a threat.
Also, you really don't sound like you're ready for a relationship at the moment. It sounds more like you just want to have fun with your friends, which is great. If you're finding that it's too difficult to struggle, and that you're becoming more and more distant from your boyfriend, then it won't work out anyway. Why not have your fun with your friends, then when you're ready, find a guy who you really will want to commit to, and who will at least act accordingly with your friends. Have fun
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