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writes:My fiancee is always freaking out about money...bills..and debt.We owe about 7000$ in credit card debt and a few medical bills.He works 40 hours a week and I am on disabiity which provides us with free food and half the rent paid every month. I'm looking for a work from home job to supplement our income, but he's making me crazy! He's always worried about making payments on this or that, and we have frequent fights because I just feel like he needs to chill out. Somebody always wants money anyway, so while I agree that we need to be careful, it's just not worth freaking out over it! When we do have money saved he's fine, but the second the bank balance gets low he needs to get the car oil changed or something else, right away! like it's going to fall apart under him. :(I don't know what to do, we have contacted a debt management company to help with the credit cards, but I just can't help but feel like I'm pulling my hair out. Our relationship is fine otherwise, but money is ALWAYS an issue.How do I make him see that spending 20$ or something on himself is not going to send the world crashing to a halt?Thanks
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reader, Seratuki +, writes (26 April 2006):
Seratuki is verified as being by the original poster of the question You may be right in some respects...but what I don't like is the fact that he freaks out over it...the fact is, there's no quick fix to it, so why is he always looking for one and freaking when he doesn't find it?
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reader, PrunellaGringepith +, writes (25 April 2006):
 I can't help but wonder if you are the one that needs to get more serious rather than him lightening up. Credit card debt of this size can be a really serious problem, and it sounds like he is making a real concerted effort to get out of it. The sooner you get rid of your debt, the sooner he can feel better about spending money on himself. It is better to make the sacrifice now while you still have a good chance to get out of debt, than to be suffering years down the line.
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