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writes:Dear Cupid,I saw this guy in a pub. He is working there as a bartender. When I ordered a drink I realised I liked him. I was gazing him with such admire. But then I just gave up, I thought myself that I won't see him again in my life, probably. After a few days I saw him in a cafe bar, and I just stared him, but after I caught him staring back at me. I kept looking him secretly, and so he did. After that, I am really fond of him. I went to that same pub again, staying at the bar near to him and we shared secret glances. Sometimes he was avoiding eye contact and he was feeling uncomfortable when I was looking him directly and uninterruptedly. I deeply want to know this guy more and to ask him out, but it feels too risky. I am not so sure about his thoughts, feelings and sexuality. Also the fact that I live in a homophobic-cultural country, makes me doubtful and frightened to make this step. The worst thing is, I don't even now his name, because he is too busy during working that I couldn't have any chance of chatting with him. After two weeks I will leave to the country where I study. Could you tell me any tips about how to make the first contact with him? Otherwise, I will go abroad and leave my soul here. Thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthat's sounds great! :) I need to find that courage in myself, but it's not a bad idea at all.. He's a little bit shy, as he avoids eye-contact sometimes when we get much closer to each other. But will definitely try to step forward.. :) THANX A LOT!!
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (20 September 2011):
 Have you tried directly asking HIM what his name is... introducing yourself first of course. Perhaps you can go into the bare/pub EARLIER when it's not so busy.
Secondly, ask around... other people at the bar might know his name. Do this... when you'd like to order a drink. So that you can then turn the the bartender and yell his name to get his attention.
If he 'lingers' when handing you your drink or change... that's the time to ask him if he'd like to get coffee some time... or something like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut I don't know his feelings... :( A missunderstanding would cause a lot to me... :( HOMOPHOBIA widely spread down here.... :( But I just feel it cannot be co-incidence all these looks... Yesterday I was in that pub.. He looked at me, then turned back when I looked him. Then I saw him looking me back through the mirror, and when he saw I noticed that, he felt very uncomfortable... :) That's something more interesing... Arghhh, I thought to do like this: to write down my e-mail and phone number in a piece of paper, and while Paying him for the drinks, to give this paper with the cash together :) ... I"M AFRAID !!!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 September 2011):
 You don't need any tricks, just go up to him and start a conversation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionohh, hell yea man... it just all grew up itself, and still haven't spoken to him... I just need tricks how to make the first step, at least until I find his name, so I can search for in FB and keep in touch afterwards... PLEASE HELP !!! :(((
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou're totally right!!!! I just need tricks how to make a contact with him, at least until I find his name, then I can search him on FB and contact with him further... :P (sounds funny :P).... but yeah, hell I'm still here and not even spoken with him.... :(((
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 September 2011):
You "like" him, you are "fond" of him, if you go abroad you'll be leaving your "soul" behind and YOU HAVEN'T EVEN SPOKEN TO HIM?? Buddy you need to pace yourself big time.
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