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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2012): Maybe you should change some of your appearance instead of keep talking to her. Sometimes in long time marriage, people forget to care about their appearance and make their partner illfeel. Do you like that?
Maybe if she sees you change, she will be more aware with why you become like that, whether you would find other girl? See if she care.
Just don't find other girl,do that to make her more aware and spice up your marriage like the first time you met.
Btw by flash back and talk about your romantic time and compliment her maybe she can be more open to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2012): I agree with Bondgirl72. This woman is acting like she simply does not have romantic feelings for you. It's time for a serious talk and she needs to be honest about how she really feels about you. It sounds like her feelings are gone and you have done what you can do to fix things. It's time to find out where you really stand with her and if she is interested in fixing things or not. If she never really did feel romantic feelings about you from the beginning, then she has married you under false pretenses and she has just been using you for your wealth. I would not hold that against her if she had been honest with you from the start. But if she pretended to love you just to get the "security" of a good husband then she isn't much better than a whore in my opinion.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (16 July 2012):
 Goes ok for awhile and then you are back to the old behavior. I understand. I think if you have tried and she isn't willing, you have grounds to separate or even divorce if that is an option for you. I know a lot of variables go into making a life-altering decision like this, but some people just do not care. I am not sure if she wants a relationship or just wants someone to supply her with the things she wants. I am sorry you are having to go through this.
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reader, 1sunshine +, writes (16 July 2012):
 I feel it it time to sit down with your wife and have a serious talk ( because all else failed. ) Sometimes us women need to be pried opened in order for us to reveal our true feelings... Take your time and be empathetic.
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reader, jetta  +, writes (16 July 2012):
jetta is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd the sad thing for me is if she wants something example a.new puppy she will tell me she'll give sexual favours in return if I buy the new puppy then my weakness I give in otherwise she will make me feel real bad for not doing it
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reader, jetta +, writes (16 July 2012):
jetta is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe had a talk several times and then it goes well for a while but then back again. I'm feeling like the bad one for expecting this but I also feel it is important in a marriage.
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (16 July 2012):
 I was in the same situation for many years and nothing i tried had any effect. I don't know what the answer is. I think some women fall out of love with you and sometimes nothing can change it. Sorry i can't be more help.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (16 July 2012):
I also know that sometimes no matter what you seem to do, nothing works. It sounds like you are a thoughtful and caring husband. I would just tell her you need to talk, take her someplace private, and tell her your feelings.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (16 July 2012):
Have you tried to have a serious talk with her about this? I know that does not always work. I know women who could care less about sex, but I always felt if I didn't have that with my man, I'd might as well be dead. I think sex is a very important component of being a couple and you should approach it from that perspective. It helps you feel closer to her and helps to strengthen your bond. I guess if she does not want to work on this problem with you, there are other alternatives that you will have to consider.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2012): I think u should make her happy and ask her what does she needs and hope to be happy. Make sure she's in happy mood.
Woman would never turn on without involving emotion. When I'm happy or felt romantic event I used to turn on easily and sometimes want to initiate sex.
But how can woman turn on while she has preassure?
Its good to hear that there still a husband who care and not give up with her wife. Please keep loyal to your wife whatever happen. Ask her and discuss problems, understand her.
Wish the best for you and your wife :)
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reader, jetta +, writes (16 July 2012):
jetta is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell the kids is in school the whole day. I help around the house cooking supper from time to time. I tried strawberries and cream and when I got home from work she and her mom was eating it. She loves horses so I got her a horse as a hobby for her And she is not working so she goes horse riding everyday. Maybe she's just not that into me yet. I also tried the notes and she thanks me for that and that's where it stays.
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reader, jetta +, writes (16 July 2012):
jetta is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thanks for replying. She is not working I help around the house making supper etc. Kids is in school whole day. Tried the little notes then she says thanks. Tried strawberries nd cream and when I got home from work she and her mom was busy eating it. She loves horses so I bought her one and every morning she goes to him riding and so on. So she got a hobby with I support.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (16 July 2012):
Sometimes women need extra romancing to get them "in the mood" and what is romancing to you may not be to her. Do you help her around the house with the cooking, cleaning, and laundry? Does she have a job that is tiring for her? Do you do thoughtful things for her and let her know that you love her all week long and not just when you want sex? Do you have children who take a lot of her time and energy? Do you still take your wife on dates to show her she's important and you're still "hot" for her? Women really need to know their men are thinking about then and care to get in the mood. There may be other things going on with her, but I would start with some of these if you haven't already. My boyfriend sometimes starts in the morning with me leaving me sexy little notes and then later sending me texts or emails. By the time we see each other, I want to rip his clothes off. But you have to work slowly and deliberately...you can't just shower her all at once.
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