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writes: Hi,im with my fiancee 14 months, we are both in our 30's and lately she does not want to get close and have sex as she cant feel me inside her. I have been suffering from impotency,but at times im ok. Went to my Doc and he prescribed me to use viagra and it has worked well for us, but the problem is that she cant feel me inside her as im not big enough and she is too wide and deep. We are both having probs with our jobs at the mo and this could be effecting us as a couple.All this is putting a big strain on our relationship and she says that she doesnt feel passionate about me anymore and theres no chemistry, but yet tells me she loves me more than just a friend and doesnt want to hurt me. Now a friendship it seems to be just heading.Its like we're getting use to being 2gether without having sex.I dont know what to do, I have difficulty concentrating at work or sleeping at night with this on my mind the whole time. I love her very much and she says that she loves me, we had a relationship that use to be solid as a rock,but I think she may be changing or losing it for me.Sometimes I sense, she doesnt know what she wants as she always changes her opinion and feelings on a matter. We are suppose to be moving into a new house together at the end of this year, which is very near and we have never lived together before. One day she may be excited about the house and what she wants to do in it and the next day she dont want to talk about the house at all. Sometimes I think she can be so childish as an adult as she doesnt know what she wants in her mid 30's.Am I trying to win a losing battle here? We have spoken about this problem over and over again and just end up getting on with things like it never happened until it occurs again.Its like one day I love you and the next day I like you as a friend.We do have a combination of things going on here.Do you think im being a fool here,is she playing mind games with me? Would I be wise at this stage to just cut my losses and end this relationship now as it could get worse if we lived together?Desperate for help on this! I love her very much and would hate to be without her in my life, but we cant go on like this,we need to do something just what?
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reader, Toria +, writes (13 October 2006):
 You really need to talk to her and explain how all this is effecting you, sex isn't everything in a relationship but some people do see it as a big part, you say it's more like a friendship now do you mean you are just acting like friends and not only has the sex gone but the attention and affection as a couple has gone aswell or just the sex is missing?
You really need to know where you stand with her and where this relationship is going as like you said you are due to move in together at the end of the year and you don't want to go through all that if this relationship hasn't got a future.
I do feel maybe you both have alot going on at the moment and the strains of everything is pulling you both in strange directions she could be worrying about the sex thing just as much as you thinking that because you aren't having it due to this problem that you will leave her for someone that will give you sex more and that can feel you.
Good luck :o)
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (12 October 2006):
 It sounds as though you both need some professional help. No I don't think she is playing mind games at all, and is probably just as stressed as you are at the moment.
Some couples counselling may come in useful here, as you need the help of a professional, and we can only offer opinions, really.
She would not stick around if she did not love you, so take comfort in that, and keep trying. If nothing else, the couples counselling will help you both look at the pro's and con's of staying together and examine the relationship to see if you can put things right. They do't apportion blame to either side, but help you to look at things objectively together.
Good luck.
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