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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So basically I dated my boyfriend since high school and everything seemed great. We were worried about our relationship because we were going to different colleges but after a couple months we knew everything would be okay. As I got into my first semester of college I met a boy who was really nice. We went out to lunch and he paid for me and we'd hang out. It killed me though because I knew that deep down inside of me, I was starting to get feelings for this guy. I had a boyfriend so everytime he would try to talk to me or hang out with me I would push him away. After a while, my boyfriend and I started developing problems and I decided to hang out with this guy from school. We're good friends now. My boyfriend and I a couple of days ago broke up. Not because of this new guy or anything, just because we felt it was the right thing to do. So the new guy and I got to connect on a deeper level. He told me he was attracted to me and kissed me. I was falling for him but then one day he texted me long paragraphs saying that I'm ugly and fat and he doesn't want to touch me. I don't know what happened?? I gave him some time and I asked to hang out with him yesterday. He said he was just angry at me at the time so he didn't mean the things he said. My problem now is, yesterday when I was at his house we ended up having sex. He is the first guy I've had sex with in which I'm not in a committed relationship in. When we were done I didn't know what to say. I want us to be friends because our friendship is stronger but if he wants to move it to the next level what am I supposed to tell him? He had nothing to say either other than "I'll see you later" which doesn't help much. I'm just lost. I don't know what he thinks of me or how he sees me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2011): I think I would forgot about pursuing a relationship with him. He told you you are fat and ugly. That is verbal abuse. What an idiot. Just lose him and write it off as an experience. If he asks, tell him you don't date men who tell you you're fat and ugly after they have sex with you.
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