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writes:my girlfriend is not efectionate she does not like sex she does not like to make out and if she has sex and comes first sex is over Reply to this Question
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reader, DiaryTruths +, writes (29 August 2010):
It might also be something in her past maybe?
I enjoy sex mostly always and have only had one partner. Even if Im tired, not in the mood, etc... I'm happy to do it and always wait until he finishes because I'd like to please him and know that he does a lot to please me too.
This just sounds selfish on her end, and unless its a fundamental issue she's willing to work on with you, I would leave her (after trying to talk and work it out of course). I know it gets tricky because then you wonder if she's being fake. Maybe this is bigger, and she needs actual therapy plus your support.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2010): have you talked to her about this? how long have you been with her? if you've been together a long time and this is a new problem you should ask her if somethings bothering her. be affectionate with her that isnt leading to sex, like holding her hand. do nice things for her like making her breakfast in bed or planning an unexpected, fun date. pack a pick nick. clean the house. cook a meal. show her you care and you might get some. she isn't going to want to give it up to you if your a dick all day, or if shes cleaning, cooking, or working all day.
if shes a new girlfriend and shes always been like that, then find someone who likes sex as much as you do.
but i do think you should talk to her about this if you havent already, and you've done sweet spontaneous things, like what i suggested.
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