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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and we used to have sex like 3 or 4 times a week. but now i'm lucky if we have sex once a week. is he just no longer attracted to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2007): I would not take this situation too lightly. It may not be that he isnt attracted to you, rather a more serious issue at hand. Going from having a steady sex life that dramatically changes to once a week is odd, especially without a reason. If all you get is wild excuses or a defensive attitude about the subject, there maybe some psychological issues at hand.
I am going through the same thing with my fiance. She is nuts if she thinks our wedding will still take place if she doesn't change. Our sex life has turned into total crap, and I've heard every wild excuse, to almost self pity(like im taking advantage of her).
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reader, Lillyboo  +, writes (22 March 2007):
I know exactly how you feel, i have asked him outright and he said stop being so dramatic and just made things worse.
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reader, Dr T  +, writes (19 March 2007):
Perhaps you should try increasing the quality of the times you do make love over the quantity. The end Honeymoon period is often hard to bear and it does mean less sex and often questions such as the one youve have asked.
Best way to find out is ask him straight or maybe get home early some evening - wait in sexy lingerie for him to come home...you´ll get an answer rather quickly Id wager!!
Good luck
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reader, ANOYMOUS1 +, writes (19 March 2007):
does he have a busy schedule. how many times a week would you prefer to have sex. i would love to have more sex with my girlfriend. im in the same situation, we have sex 1 a week. i wish my girlfriend would want more sex as well. there is nothing wrong with you he needs to put out for you. im not sure what his deal is sorry.
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reader, flossere +, writes (19 March 2007):
many couples want there time out when it comes to the bedroom. just give him alittle nudge. and maybe give him a treat or a candle lit dinner that shud get the mood. and course he is still attracted to you.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (19 March 2007):
 As many couples become more established in a relationship the sex does lessen. Many go through phrases of lots of sex all the time to no sex and vice versa.
Its all about being comfortable with one another and I guess to a certain extent taking each other for granted.
Its pretty normal for it to wain a bit and its only natural, but if you are overly bothered by it talk to your bf, ask him if hes happy with your sex life and mention that you wouldnt mind having more sex, and is he happy.
Dont automatically assume that its you, its what all relationships go through at some point or other and so long as you are both happy and able to express yourselves to one another then dont worry. Its just the normal progression of a relationship.
Take care x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2007): I doubt it. You usually find once the "honeymoon period" has worn off and you get more comfortable with each other theres not such a need to jump into bed every five seconds. x
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