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writes:I've been with my partner for just over a year now, our sexlife was great literally like rabbits! But within the past year it's become non existent. He's 6 years older than me, (im 20) but has never bothered us. I know he's not cheating on me that's out the question, but he's excuses are usually that he's tired, he works full time and I only see him early mornings and late nights he's either at work or seeing his friends. He's always on his phone when he's with me and I hardly get any attention. I think he's lost interest in me but he says he hasn't. He always picks me up just to spend the night with me. Other reason why I think he's no interested is because he watches porn, I don't have a problem with it, but why watch porn when he can have sex with me? :( I've tried dressing up abit, but just nothing. It's really frustrating me now, and I've tried talking to him about it he said with his last ex he lost interest in sex pretty quickly, he even went to see the doctor about it. But he won't go again and just says we'll try againsoon, 2 months on, nnothing..
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2014): Dump HIm
It's totally unfair of one person to effectively de-sexualise another person and this is what he is doing to you. It will wreck your self esteem and have very far reaching effects if you stay. It's very selfish of him to do this, he is basically treating you as sub-human - every person has a natural need to feel desirable to their partner. He's cruel. Just leave, don't even try to sort it out with him, you'd be on a losing battle as he's got no sense of urgency to sort this out himself - and it is HIS responsibility to do so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2014): Dump him.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (30 May 2014):
 Sounds like you now have found out why he has an ex and why he was available to date. He has a bit of a new toy excitement surrounding the relationship and sex but then reverts back to doing the porn thing.
Did you ever look at this site: http://yourbrainonporn.com ? It has some interesting stuff about how a young male's brain is wired and how the "one click and there's porn" internet culture screws them up for real life relationships.
He sounds like a victim of that.
Don't stick around for this unless he's actively seeking help.
Get out, you're young and there are men who will be very happy to find a willing and vibrant sex partner and form a real relationship!
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