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writes:Hi I love my job it's not a chore to go. Someone is spreading rumors that I fancy this guy and everyone is laughing behind my back. I've been friendly but no more than with the other guys there. He does make me feel awkward. he's taken this all the wrong way and I believe it's him spreading the rumor and it's not cus he fancies me he show no signs of that. I'm married and I'm worried it will get back to my husband and he won't believe me. It ruining my work life!!!! Ignore or confront?????
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 July 2016):
 This really is playground stuff. Making up rumors in the work place. They might find it funny, but it can ruin your happiness in work and that is not okay. If he makes you feel awkward, then just tell him unless it is work related and you have to talk to each other that you don't want anything to do with him, tell him you are happily married and these rumors are upsetting you. If you are happily married and this is annoying you, well surely you can turn to your husband and talk to him. Surely he trusts you! Talk to your husband and tell him the truth, then talk to your boss at work, this is slander and it is not okay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you ...That is very useful information...... Think I'll tell my H. But the guy in question is one of my bosses. Just realised how childish that makes him. They obviously believe him though!!! or maybe they are just gossiping busybodies. It's just so awkward now. Thanks
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 July 2016):
 Contact HR or you boss (if you have an HR I'd go to the boss first THEN the HR - I would NOT sit idly by and let people drag you through the mud with ridiculous rumors). That would be my first step. Because whomever is making AND spreading these rumors are creating a HOSTILE work environment for YOU and that is not OK.
Secondly, avoid all contact with this guy. If you have to work with him, don't discuss anything outside of work, no private stuff no personal tidbits.
Thirdly, yell your husband.
Fourth, ANY and EVERY TIME someone brings it up, squash it. And maybe remind them that that kind of rumors are slanderous and you don't take kindly to that kind of BS. That you have no interest in the guy and you are happily married.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 July 2016):
 Tell your husband, and then next time you hear the rumour, or somebody alludes to it you hand them a slip of paper with your husband's contact details, telling the person your husband is VERY interested to know who is spreading malicious rumours ....
or tell your husband and then confront the person you believe responsible .... but only if you are SURE he is the responsible party. Mention when you confront him that your husband is aware of the lies.
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