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female
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30-35,
*heLoveOmen
writes:When it comes to crushes and romance i have nothing but bad luck. I've had so much bad luck i think im a omen the reason i think this is because, everytime i meet someone new or with a friend that is having a bad time with romance within a month of meeting me they meet someone new and start a new romance while i stay single and sad. my most recent romance with a guy from my new job kinda was a non starter as we tried many times meeting up and every time he would let me down.he would stop talking to me for about 2 weeks then suddenly text me again saying at like 12/1am lets meet up and cuddle bla bla bla stay the night bla bla bla. we see each other at work a few times depending on our shifts, but no flirting at all recently just talking more in person then nothing via text. has he lost interest or was he just using me to get laid? things aren't awkward between us as nothing really happened. hes more flirty with my friend at work e.g. trying to trip her up and teasing her with names. (She isnt interested and has a boyfriend). I try not be the jealous type but i miss the closes we had before when he used to poke me and etc. im never going to meet someone -,- let me know what you think?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (17 April 2014):
 I think first off, you should try not to define yourself in such a negative light. It shows. It will make you bitter.
There is nothing foreboding or prophetic about you and romance. It might FEEL that way because THAT is how you CHOOSE to DEFINE yourself and SEE yourself.
So step no. 1 - BE positive about yourself and about life. Sound easy, can be tricky til you get it down.
Step no. 2. If it QUACKS like a duck and WALK like a duck, it's most likely a DUCK. A guy who stand you up, who calls you at midnight/1 am IS without a doubt looking for a booty call NOT a GF. And if you can't see that, you have a skewered view of what a relationship should be.
Step no. 3. No more pity parties for yourself. So you are single, SO WHAT? Find things that makes you HAPPY, Go out enjoy meeting people, hobbies, doing stuff and seeing stuff.
Once you get step 1 and 3 down... I have a sneaking suspicion that you will find that men will becomes more interested in you.
Wanting a BF so bad, that you are willing to pretend a guy who uses you for late-night booty calls, ACTUALLY CARE for you is being in denial. Don't be in denial.
Set some boundaries. Have some standards. If a guy cancels more then 3 dates, he is out. If all he wants is to sometimes met up and have sex, he is out. If he doesn't respect me and treat me right, he is out.
FIGURE out what you want in a guy. What you want in a relationship. KNOWING what you really want and BELIEVING you deserve it, is half the battle.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 April 2014):
 To me, the word "omen" signifies that something is being foretold in the future. So I think you can let yourself off the hook for being an "omen." Now, you could decide that you are a harbinger and take that as a good thing.
I would decide that you should be your own best advocate and take on the role of "MyOwnAwesome LifeAdvocate" and not be a booty call for sweet-talking phony exes who want some sexy sex….
I would not have sex with a new love interest for at least 90 days (this will weed out the impatient phonies) and I would not focus on closeness for right now as you feel very desperate for love and for attention. Sorry if that sounds a bit harsh but you do sound very unsettled and unhappy and as though you haven't really figured out what the unreliable guy was after… P.S. it was sex…..
So, recast yourself… the "romance omen" sounds really dismal. Time for a new role!
"A Fresh New Start with A Great Guy"
"A New Romance"
"I am ready for a real man"
Good luck!
P.S. Remember the 90 day rule….. :)
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