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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone - can anyone help my situation. I've with this guy. We've been together nearly 5 years but have split up a couple of time within that time. We don't live together and have no kids together.The problem is that we split up last February (my decision) but got back together in September. He was the one that kept contacting me to try and sort the relationship out.In that time apart though, I have moved on somehow and although we get on really well, I just don't fancy him anymore and see us just like mates now.I've told him that things aren't how they once were but he just thinks that we'll be ok with time. I just feel that whatever we once had has now gone and that I am plodding on week to week and life's too short to be unhappy. I don't have any 'buzz' factor anymore and I know relationships change over time but surely there has to be more feelings than this? Has anyone else been in the same situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): I have, and I didnt realise until I had left him that it was the right thing to do. I missed him in the same way you would miss a good friend, but I didnt miss the sex. I think quite a good test is to imagine him with someone else - how does that make you feel?Some people are happy with companionship but you don't sound like one of those people, I'm not either. Perhaps he doesn't want to let you go, or he still has the buzz factor, and is kind of living in denial that you will one day too. If you decide to stay in the relationship, you need to look at the reasons you liked him before you got together. What was it about him? Perhaps you can go back to those times, start dating him again. At least you are being honest with him. If you do decide to end it, it will be easier on both of you to stop all contact. That way he isn't living in false hope.Hope all works out well for you.x
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