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The relationship has been going down hill for the last year ...

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Question - (25 July 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 26 July 2013)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Dear Cupid

My bf of 4 years was not nice to me for the past 1 year, he behavior towards me is deteriorating as each day goes by.

I am not sure whether all relationships goes sour as days goes by or its just me. He never picks up when i call, goes on days without even saying a word to me. I am just tired of taking initiate in this relationship, is normal relationship is overrated. Is there any guys who actually treat their gfs nice, take them someplace good, talk to them, listen to them. When ever i talk, my bf says im annoying him. He will talk to me only his mood strikes and i have to wait for that time. We work in the same office, so there is no way i could avoid him and he never comes with me for lunches, i go with my gfs.

I dont know what to do anymore, how to make myself less annoying and more appealing to him. please help me

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2013):

It's time to move on, your bf is not treating you very nice.... Do you still see yourself in this kind of relationship for the many years to come? If you stay with him, it can only get worse... He's maybe waiting for you to make the first breakup move because he is too much of a coward to do so.

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A female reader, malvern United Kingdom +, writes (26 July 2013):

malvern agony auntYour boyfriend is a waste of time and doesn't deserve you. HE is the one who should be making himself less annoying and more appealing, not you. Don't spend anymore time on him and start looking around for somebody more worthwhile.

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A female reader, Caring Aunty A Australia +, writes (25 July 2013):

Caring Aunty A agony auntEach relationship does have its dull moments… and that’s why my partner and I set goals of holidays aboard and have small romantic getaways in between to break up the monotony of every day living. Every now and again I do have to remind him of being more attentive which he happily obliges me, hence we don’t fall into the pattern of taking each other for granted.

Yet in the last year your boyfriend has shown deteriorating affection due to – what? As I can’t imagine living with someone who totally ignores me like he’s doing to you. For me, NO that’s not normal and somewhere along the way you’ve both taken things for granted and made this relationship what is today – SOUR :(

Be that he’s moody, you can’t win by just bringing up a conversation with him and expect him civil in discussing any issues with you. I suggest you, put all the cards on the table about your relationship and call him out as to what’s going on inside his head. Either he stays with a commitment to improve his ways or leaves to set you free.

Take Care – CAA

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