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writes:Lila here~ For the past 50 or so years, the burden of contraception has fallen squarely on the shoulders of women. Thanks to the good doctor in Shrewsbury, MA who invented the Pill (his wife was my high school librarian for years-- you might imagine the jokes about his experiments), women were finally given the ability to decide for themselves whether or not they wanted children. And this was a very good thing. Usher in the Women's Rights Movement around the same time, and the Pill was a tiny bite of big time liberation. Fast forward thirty years, to the era of AIDS. Prior to AIDS, there were plenty of STDs. However, most of them were believed to be caught only by sailors and prostitutes. Yeah, now we know better, but people were way more innocent back then. They were only worried about having illegitimate children, not sexually transmitted diseases. Suddenly, in the 90's, condoms became the birth control method of choice. Or maybe more accurately, the "what to wear" when you're getting laid. Recently, an interesting thing happened near me on the subject of condoms. Last month, a woman friend had the opportunity to hook up with a really hot guy. They both sort of knew the hook up would happen, but in the heat of the moment, he didn't have a condom. She, to her credit, declined unprotected sex. I was surprised on two fronts: one, that he wouldn't have planned ahead, and two, that she wasn't "packing."A recent study quoted in the Journal of Sex Researchers indicated that both men and women underestimated their partner's willingness to "get dressed." But women were especially off-base. This misunderstanding leads to a lot of unprotected sex. Needless to say, unprotected sex is not good. Even though having a baby outside of marriage has become somewhat less stigmatized, it's still a stigma in some circles. And the stigma of being a single mom I'd take over catching HIV (or, frankly, even crabs!) any day. The Booty Doctors recommend dressing appropriately whenever you have the opportunity to have sex. Even if it's someone you think you can trust, be sure that you both get tested for communicable diseases before you go to bed naked.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (14 May 2010):
 Hmm, why were you surprised she "wasn't packing" or that he wasn't prepared? I'm not surprised by that. I would imagine there are a lot of people don't think to carry condoms on them 24/7.
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