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writes:I am 14 years old and my parents are always fighting so i think if i loose my virginity it will help me relieve stress. What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 April 2011):
 oh yes worrying that the boy likes you, that your not pregnant, that you don't have an STD will all greatly reduce your stress....
the above statement is SARCASM.....
is there a guidance counselor at school you can talk to?
you really do not want to find crutches such as sex alcohol or drugs to reduce stress.
many people i know use exercise as stress reducers... a nice long walk or run might help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): Auntie Susie, stop stealing my answers!Just KIDDING.Seriously, though, she is right.I've always thought of virginity as something rather sacred... you give it up when you're an adult, financially stable, and in a loving relationship. Your parents' fighting is really getting to you; perhaps they're not aware of how it's affecting you, but they need to know. Please talk to an adult in your life... you shouldn't suffer in silence. A teacher, a pastor or priest? Grandparents? People that turn to destructive ways of escaping- such as drugs or sex- often wind up turning their whole lives upside down. Perhaps boredom is a factor, although you didn't mention it. You need to have something outside of school, some form of recreation. I remember being very obsessed with horses and music when I was your age... but it's a healthy form of recreation. Maybe those things would be options for you?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 I don't think that will solve your problems because it won't be a permenent fix. I see you using sex the same way someone else may use alcohol to cover up their pain.
I think a better way to deal with it is to open up to some friends and spend as much time as you can with some positive people.
In the end sex doesn't make things better because it is never there to comfort you when you really need it like your friends would be.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 No way will that relieve any stress for you, it will give you a whole new world of stress. You need to talk to someone. Do you have a family member, an aunt or uncle who you could talk to, or a favourite teacher at school? What about a friends mother? Can you talk to your parents at all? Could you let them know how their fighting is getting to you? Sex is something good for you to look forward to in the future, when you are a bit older and wiser. Try talking to your parents, maybe they are just caught up with themselves at the moment. Keep in touch here too if it helps.
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