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writes:I'm 18 years old, and I am pregnant. I'm very scared to tell my parents because they are both very strict, and my mom is very old fashioned. I'm afraid they won't talk to me ever again.I did not know that antibiotics make birth control pills less effective, so when the condom broke I thought that we'd be ok because I was on birth control and never missed a pill.My fiance's mom is the only parent who knows right now. and My fiance has told me he will be there for me every step of the way.But I'm very scared to tell my parents. How do I do this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010): as a very conservative mother, i do understand that this would be a really hard thing....however as the other aunts have said, its not the worst thing i can imagine. i have 3 daughters and 4 sons and yes this is something that i fear. but it doesnt compare with illness or death....it doesnt compare with estrangement. in perspective i have stood by the casket of children and watched as their parents grieved....i have done cpr on a 3 year that drowned in the family pool. so to me pregnacy can be dealt with. it will change your life, it will change your hopes and dreams and your plans. it will embarrass them and that will have to be overcome. but in the end the love a parent has for a child (hopefully you have that love) will prevail. there will be tears, there will possibly be recriminations, but given time....you will be suprised to find that there is laughter and hugs again. someday this will be a memory and the future will be reality. a baby, even under these circustances, is a gift to be enjoyed and treasured. yes it is a life changing event, but all change isnt bad...i promise you this, when that baby is placed in your arms all of this will fade away. i hope this doesnt sound like i am promoting getting pregnant before you are at the right place in life, im not....but in your case the deed is done so make the best of it. hugs, mal
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Not knowing your parents, we can't really say whether you're over-concerned about their reaction. As the father of a 17 year-old daughter, I'll tell you what I worry about: her dying; her getting a serious disease ...
Pregnancy at 18 is unfortunate, it's not desirable, and as a father I wouldn't be thrilled about it. But in perspective, it's quite a ways down the list of terrible things that can happen. And that might be a way to introduce the subject to them -- "Mom, Dad, what's the worst thing you can think of that could happen."
In 21st century North America, it just seems unlikely that parents would turn their back on an adult offspring for getting pregnant out of wedlock. Be prepared for them to be disappointed, sure. But I suspect they'll come around, and maybe even surprise you with their support.
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reader, Felix Francis  +, writes (27 May 2010):
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Your fiance's mom would be the postman to deliver the message to your parents and when it goes from her end there would not be long term problem, this is your first child, do not murder it, since your fiancey is there for you no worries, let god be with you all and bless your baby.
So do not worry, happend is happened let the marriage be prepond with less gathering and this is the way it should be sorted out.
felix
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