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writes:Me and my ex were together for just over 8 months. We broke up 3 months ago and she's been with someone else for 2 months. I can't get over her. The pain I felt then is just as strong as it is now. What should I do?
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reader, Honor +, writes (25 February 2008):
This is really hard - and I do feel for you! I think what really hurts is the fact that she seemed to have moved on so quickly when you are still hurting and perhaps it seems unfair that you hurt this much whilst she can carry on normally with her life.If I could give you some magic words I would but sadly there isnt. Chances are you may still be upset about this months from now - maybe even a year...only time can heal these things and each person moves on at different paces.But what I can tell you to do is to try to occupy yourself in the mean time that you DO need that time to move on. Try to not spend too much time alone at home because that is the worst thing you can do. Try to surround yourself with your friends, go out, maybe take up a hobby that will take lots of concentration so as to distract your mind, perhaps plan a small holiday with the lads and it will give you something to look forward to. But just do whatever you can to get through each day for now and slowly you will find each day becoming a little easier. I do not think you should go out with another girl to get over her or to spite her - that could potentially backfire and make you feel worst OR you could get another girl caught up in this who may only get hurt and end up feeling what you feel now which would be wrong. It will no doubt be hard but many many people have been through these things and survived to tell the tale. You will be ok again - just give yourself the time and space you need.Good luck!
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (24 February 2008):
 Hi
You're probaly stuck in a rut. If she had stayed single and alone, you possibly wouldn't of felt so insulted.
You know deep down she has moved on (albeit a bit quick and unlikely to last as its a rebound) but you wonder how she has rejected you so easy.
Only time will help. And getting out there and socialising with people. Eventually you too will move on. Its rarely both that move on at exactly the same time.
But you will do.
Chin up. Hard as it may be, try and shut her out and get on with your life.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): iv got some news for you i have been in love with someone for little under 4 years and the pain is still just as strong as the first day.but from what i hear the best way to get over someone is to try and take your mind off of them hang out with friends try to date someone new just try not to think about her soo much hope this helps
-michael
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