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writes:I am in an age gap relationship, I am 36 he is 56, we have been together for 7 years and we love each other to bits there is one sticking point that keeps cropping up in my head and this is the issue of children. He has an 8 year old child from the previous relationship and he says that he does not want any more, usually this is ok but as I get older the thought is naggin at me, what if I do want one? Wondering if anyone else has had a similar situation or what peoples thoughts are.
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reader, shellie84  +, writes (27 December 2008):
hello im a 24 year old female who is with a 46 years old guy he has got 3 boys and says he dosent want anymore kids i had fallen pregnant when we were only 6 months into our relationship and he made me get an abortion we have been together for just over 1 year now and i want kids he still dont want anymore kids but if he is going to be with me then i think he should take some consideration on what i want so he has let me have one we now have a beautifull baby girl named lily-rose so i do understand where your coming from.... just try talking to him im sure he would understand...... good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Are you my twin?
I'm 34-going on 35, and in love with a man who is in 57. We planned to get married. But- he, too, has children from a previous marriage, and is not talking about having more. I'm at the point now where I'm deciding whether to end the relationship or not. It is heartbreaking. Do I leave, and hope to find another love of my life? Or stick with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): Is there anything preventing you from being a mother to his 8 year old? You have been with this man for 7 years which means that from the time the child was 1 you have been a part of his father's life and I would assume part of child's life as well.
Another thing is do you really want a child or do you feel pressure to give birth because you're a woman? I've heard many stories of women being told they're not really women until they have a kid or being treated badly because they didn't want to bear a child. With that in mind I think you should really think about what your motivation to have children is.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (24 February 2008):
 Hi
Its a no brainer really. It depends how much having a child of your own means to you.
He has stated he doesnt want anymore, the ball is ultimately in your court here.
C xxxxxx
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