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writes:so thru my life I have endured quite a bit of pain. my first love was killed when I was only 16. my next girlfriend at 17 left me to go live in another state and before she left she told me I was nothing and broke me. after a month or so I found another girl this one told me I was everything to her and that she couldn't imagine living without me. I fell in love for the first time since my ex who was murdered. she was killed in a car accident. something happnd to me then. my most recent girlfriend, I walked in on her with another man in my bed. she doesn't even live with me! yet this time I don't feel anything. I now find it hard to be happy. I can't feel anything. im only 20 years old. I don't even feel pain. am I lost? am I broken as a human being?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): I know how it feels to be hurt so bad that you just can't feel anything anymore! It takes time to heal. I know it doesn't seem that you will, but you will!
There are no garauntees in life, unfortunately. We have to make the best of what we have. We have to heal from our pain, try not to become bitter, and always look at the glass as half full! I know first hand how difficult that is. But, what choice do we have?
I struggle daily to remain optimistic and believe that just around the corner, is joy and happiness. If I can just hang on, things will get better!
If you are not at the point to do this...then just believe that I believe!
The numbness will fade, and you will begin to feel again!
I wish you a future of love and happiness!
Britt
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): No, you're not broken just had a horrible time. Just a bit worn out. And that girl who moved away probably just told you that you were nothing, so that you could move on from her quicker and it was easier for her to forget you if she pretended that you didn't mean anything x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): You are definetly not broken as a human being. After all the things that have happened to you, what youre going through is normal. Sometimes being numb is a way to protect yourself from feeling pain that you arent ready to feel. Im about the same age as you are and although I havent been through as much as you have, I have felt the way you do know. I can honestly tell you that therapy is worth trying. It doesnt always work for everyone, but some people find it helpful. Just find an outlet to express what you feel, talk to a therapist or someone you trust or write it down. Anything to get it out of your system so that you dont have pent up sadness or anger. Im also here if you want to talk, just message me anytime. And kellyxxx is right, not all women cheat so dont lose faith, just hang in there.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (6 June 2009):
 *hug* I'm so sorry you've had to deal with this much pain.
I second the counseling idea. That's a lot of agony to for anyone to go through...just hang in there for a while longer and talk to a professional. It can really help.
Good luck with everything and I will think good thoughts for you.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (6 June 2009):
 You have had it tough! Please don't give up trying to feel things for people! Have you had counselling? You sound as if you would benefit from it, I would enquire about it. If you need anyone to speak to then personal message me, I haven't had as many experiences as you but I'm friendly and I can give you abit of advice. Not all girls are cheaters by the way, don't lose hope! Xxxxxxx
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