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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:This is a very raunchy and mostly homosexual post. If that bother's anyone, please direct your help to someone else, I just don't know where else to turn here.First off, I'm bisexual - and I also don't see sex as the final reward to a personal relationship. I see sex as an advancement of an existing one - one that can be shared between friends, men and women alike. I like sex, and as long as it is with someone who is close, I'll have it with them in any way they want.But this is all in theory. Or was. One of my friend's shared in the ideal, and said that he was Bi-curious. So we tried. I enjoyed it, but the problem is...I was doing all the work, and he never came. There were a lot of factors as to why, because since it was out first time we were a little awkward and everything, but I'm not sure what to do now. I want to try again with him, but I can't be sure we'll get him off next time. I want him to get off really bad, for him to experience an orgasm. Where do I go from here?Also, he complains of some sort of pain inside of his penis during sex - I'm confused. Could his penis be defunct, per se? Or maybe he's just attributing the feeling of pre-ejaculation as pain? He's vehemently against any physical pain - he went flaccid as soon as he felt any change. I need some help here...
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (6 June 2009):
 Maybe more foreplay would work. He might have been tense since it was his 1st time. Try again, play around with each other before you get to penetrative sex - more blowjobs, more kissing and stroking, etc.
If he gets the pain again he should see a doctor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): mmm why should being gay make any difference to the working of his bits?
SO does it work normally? what happens when he plays alone?
if the answer it only happens when i am with someone then - its something either mentally or the technique - maybe try not to be so rough?
I wouldn't worry too much unless the first questions are bad, in which case go to the doctors?
Star.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): Well I think you need to ask him if its pressure or pain. The other question I have would be "is he on the recieving end?, and if so" wouldn't that create some pressure in his penis and maybe he is confusing that.maybe next time take it slower, to get him more relaxed and comfortable with each other... get to know your bodies and ignore that sensation that men get to stick it. just kind of take him in.... make love to him... not sex... ask him what feels good, does this make him feel uncomfortable...etc... communication is the only key is sex with a partner... so, talk away... make sure you add things like... i want you to feel good...etc...have fun.
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