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writes:OK, so the other shoe has finally dropped in my relationship. She wanted to call it quits. Give me my keys and get your stuff.I came, got my things quietly, and she barely mumbled a word. I asked what is going on and all she says is "I dont know, I'm miserable right now, my job sucks, I have no friends..." She doesn't mention me, but she doesn't stop me from walking out the door either ha ha ha...So, I admit I've been kicking myself since the breakup, wondering if it's even right to think about trying to make things right. Not sure if you know from my past writings, but she's been on dating sites (and has visited a lot more since october).I'm playing it cool, haven't called or texted in two weeks. I haven't heard a word from her at all.Should I be cool for another couple of weeks and reach out? I know we're both playing the "I'm stronger" game right now, but if I don't say something within a month is that saying I'm fine with this, and should just take it last hint and be gone forever? I've just never had such a weird breakup with someone like this before...she's being totally irrational by not bringing the relationship any type of closure. She never even explained anything to me.Thanks, I'm a knuckle head I know...:)
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reader, hiro06 +, writes (11 November 2010):
Women are irrational. Still play it cool put randomly call her one day you will get the answer machine trust me and leave a message telling her how you feel and that you want her back. If she does pick up tell her what you where going to leave on her voicemail. You should write down what you want to say before you calling and sound really sweet and caring on the phone. You have to make the first move in getting her back but you also have to be ready to move on. Women always want the guy to make the first move I dont know why maybe to show we are interested you that we care. Female are irrational creature that always use code words that they expect a man to know. Like if a women say something "is fine" its not fine. Well, anyways sorry there are like three possbilities that could happen after you leave a message. 1 she call you a couple of days or weeks later wanting to get back together 2 she will call back saying she cant do "us" anymore or basically tell you its over or 3 she wont tell back at all telling you its over. The best thing for you to do leave a message and just give her her space until she calls you. At least until then you are free to roam the fields (date).
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 November 2010):
Well of course you're going to be a knucklehead, you obviously still love the girl! But honestly...the chick has problems and they are not what you can fix. She has her own issues and she obviously needs to work through them and apparently she thinks it will help her by throwing herself into some rebound relationship. I don't know if it really is some sort of thing with her that she needs to be "strong" and isn't talking to you. I think it's making it harder for you because you don't have any real concrete explanation.
I would suggest you continue to not talk to her and get out while you can! I think it's in your best interest to move on from this girl because I think she'll end up hurting you even more. Usually things won't ever be better in the future even if you did work things out, they might be better for a little while but you'll end up with the same result.
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