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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Please give me some advice. I know this is quite something to read, but it could make me very happy.I've had a dream about my ex last night. It was like, she was being really sweet to me, while playing hard to get and we just flirted and had fun with each other. My ex is the only girl I've met that is so sweet. My feelings kind of came back for her after this dream. It's been 3 years that I've been single now. The relationship ended because it became long-distance and it just didn't work out, it was ended while we both loved each other. It was hard and hurt both of us a lot, but today it still feels like it was a wise decision.The more I think about her, the more I wish she was still here (she's really far now. It feels like she'll always have a place in my heart. I don't doubt I'll always have a place in hers.Since we broke up, she never replied to my messages (only tried like 2 times, but it hurt her to think about me I guess so she didn't want to talk much, I don't want to remind her of me, if it means hurting her).It's tough times for me, I'm 20, I don't meet a lot of girls. My career though, is as smooth as it can be, I'll even be in the newspaper pretty soon. I've spent too much time on my career instead of social kills and all (basically because I didn't grow up in such a good family and neighbourhood, everybody's pissed at each other here). But i'm just not happy. I guess because of this dream I miss her again. I'm having a surgery pretty soon, it's pretty serious to me (full anestesic) and it's the first time I'll have an operation/surgery. I wish I had somebody I could love and have support from. I'm strong, but sometimes that hug or kiss would just make my day so much better.I really want to find somebody else who can be this awesome, and be really in love with each other. Lol sounds so stereotypical.Then, it reminds me of all the lost opportunities with girls I liked. For instance a week ago this beautiful girl wanted to let me pass first, she was kind, I just kind of froze (first time this happened to me) and didn't know what to say. Basically cause she was trying to speak my language to talk to me (must've heard me talk; i'm trilingual though and knew her language too) and it was hard to understand and I didn't know what to say. Oh and my mom was there too haha.. So many obstacles.-----------------------------I guess here my real question is, I feel sad and I want to be happy again. I'm not sure what to do. The only thing I feel would make me happy again would be having a girlfriend where love is big and really mutual. Am I over my ex or does everbody still feel a bit of love if they think back long enough?I haven't had any action for 3 years, it's been a very long time. I'm even still a virgin, mainly 'cause my ex and I wanted to keep it until we knew we'd stick to each other after she had to go back to her country.Thanks for reading.. Please leave an answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2013): Hey love sick puppy!
You know what, love comes in the most unexpected way.
You are not in love with your ex gf. You are in love with the idea of having someone.
Its different.
You cant push or hurry love.
it will come to you.
your ex gf is clearly over you.
Move on. Think about your self.
Your going to have a surgery, Think about your recovery first.
Its not good to be a burden to someone else.
Good thing that you don't have a gf because just imagine the stress and tension your going to give her if you have one during your operation.
focus on more important things in your life.
I believe that God did reserve one great love for everyone.
just wait for it. Happiness is a choice, sometimes its all in the mind. Your brain dictates your feelings
Are you sure your a guy? you seem so mushy?
Or a gay? whatever. Its kind a cute,Its ok to be mushy. but don't over do it. Good luck!
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