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30-35,
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writes:The ex I loved for 5 years and the other whom i've been friends and a co worker with for 2 years??? We had good/great/amazing/terrible ect. times together. He cheated 3 times once with one of my closest friends whilst i was beside him asleep. I never did once... But we always worked it out..Then he told me he didn't want to be with me anymore. And then changed his mind half hour later... That hit me like a hammer to the back of the head. I broke up with him a few weeks ago. I just dont understand what i did wrong to deserve all of this? For 5 years we were doing good still. Sex 2-3 times a day still. We spoke heaps. Everything was fine?Just to mess with my head even more he told me he was going to ask me to marry him on my birthday which is not far away at all. I'm trying so hard not to go back to him and he's trying so hard to get me back which hurts me so much because i want what we had, the good days but I'm so sick of the lies and deceit..I have now had a extremely amazing bloke (i'll call him Y) tell me he's fallen for me. And me and Y have gotten so much closer in the last week or so its not funny. We have so much in common and he's treated me better in a week then the whole last year of me and my ex's relationship was. My ex is not giving up he's trying so hard to get me back.. He's changing things now and i know he is for a fact. He was a emotional wreck last time i saw him. I just want to know how to make the right decision. I dont want to see a bloke like Y walk straight past me... but in a sense i dont want to throw away the last 5 years either. There's so much more to it.. i did write it out but i started crying and wiped the whole page! What do i do? I'm so lost and confused and all over the place its not funny.
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (16 September 2010):
 This shouldn't be a difficult choice to make. If he cheated on you not once but three times, he definitely will again. He threw away those five years by violating your trust, not you. Why put yourself through that? 'But I love him' shouldn't be the reason to put yourself through emotional torture.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (16 September 2010):
 Your ex cheated on you with a close friend while you were asleep next time? Only the lowest of low do that. That's one unforgivable act, and a crappy close friend at that. You must be one sound sleeper if you couldn't feel the bed rocking. And who the hell (pardon my french) breaks up with someone then takes it back a half hour later? Screw that. How do you know for a fact that he's changed? Really seeing is believing and I would have to see proof if I were you. For a person to change it takes years, not a matter of weeks. FYI just because he says he's going to propose on his birthday doesn't really mean he is, majority of guys who propose make it a surprise and don't tell you when they're going to do it ahead of time. Sorry, but you would be a fool to give up Y who treats you like a lady, with the upmost respect. 5 years of lying and deceit is something you need to stop holding onto, because you'll only have 5 more if even that if you agree to marry this cheater.
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