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writes:I'm really gettin sick of this relationship we ben together for a year and a half and we have a baby together. My problem is that I'm tired of feeling like my needs are not understood but yet I'm suppose to understand his we agrue bout the dumbest things its like he doesnt wanna understand for example we were suppose to go to his moms and meet his sister w the baby he told me we were gona go at 3 then he say he wants to go sooner like 1 and it was 12 at the time . I jus got done workin out n then he says as soon as i get dressed were leaving just rushin me I have to shower do my hair so I said forget it then I asked him to help me move this glass table back and he said no 2 min later he wants me to move the cars(my brothers and mine) so he and the baby can leave so I said no he cud do it himself then he calls his mom n says I don't wanna move my car so he cnt come I call her back n tell her the situation. After I try to tell him how disrespectful he's being and he says its me then bring up past irrelevent things that have nothin to do. As I'm explain how I feel he just doesntget it so he packed his things and left w the baby to his moms after the cars were moved its things like this he does all the time why does he not wanna understand my point ever? its simple and he never take blame for anything.he starts things and doesn't relize why I react Reply to this Question
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (17 July 2011):
 Make him spend a weekend with the baby by himself and leave him a list of housework chores that must be done before you return. Hopefully he will realise how hard it is to be super organised with a baby.
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reader, Arekkusu +, writes (16 July 2011):
 Well, it's easy to point fingers at people. Make sure to take a step back and look at from an oustiders point of view. By the sounds of it, the relationship isnt as healthy is it could be. The fact that you have a kid together makes everything that much more difficult. I would recommend sitting him down and explaining your feelings to him. Maybe he has not one clue that your stressing out over him. I dont know why he'd bring up the past to justify what he's doing. It sounds to me like he's losing interests in you and if you truly care for him and want to have a future with him then you need to let him know before it evolves into something you dont want it to be. Just remember, it takes to opposing forces to create friction. ;)
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